One of the things that surprised me the most about becoming a mother was how many people have opinions—and aren’t afraid to share them!—on how we choose to raise our kids. Women are seemingly more susceptible to the spectrum of scrutiny (I touched upon this in my May Mission letter), but I was slightly blindsided by how criticism and judgement increased when I became a mom. From the names we pick for our babies to whether we breastfeed to whether we co-sleep seems to be up for discussion, even though our approaches to parenting are the most personal of choices. Let’s face it, we’re all just trying to do our best, one day at a time.
I, for one, have been “mom shamed,” and, if we’re getting super honest here, I’m sure I’ve judged a mom or two in my wake. I’ve been approached (read: interrupted) about the food that I feed my kids, or the way that I dress them (too feminine or too masculine). I saw a tidal wave of judgement when I shared pictures of my sons with fresh coats of ninja-turtle green nail polish on their tiny fingers – not because they were excited to have their hands resemble the likes of Leonardo’s or Michelangelo’s, but perhaps because this beauty ritual might “emasculate” my toddlers? I’ve even been judged by how big or small my baby bump appeared (aren’t I eating for two? Or should I not have that second donut…). I’ve also been told that I have a great body “for having kids.” Not only is this insulting, because I’m equally as proud of taking care of myself as I am for carrying three healthy, beautiful children inside of me – I’m also proud of the ways my body has changed since then! It’s an insult disguised as a compliment that I can’t help but take personally, even though I know I work hard to stay in good physical and emotional shape for myself and my family.
So here’s the thing: it’s hurtful, because I didn’t ask for any of it. I never asked if I should paint my sons’ nails, or if my baby bump was abnormally large, or if anyone thinks it’s weird to meditate with my kids, or how many times my boys are allowed to watch Ninjago on repeat. Being a receptacle of judgement can be isolating and confusing, because it can immediately trigger feelings of not being “enough.”
Emotionally, we need to validate both ourselves and one another because we’re essentially all just trying to learn on the fly. Motherhood doesn’t come with a handbook- none of us are getting it right all of the time. Negative words can be passed as a collection of small judgements that lead to a larger projection of invalidation. Sometimes, our small judgements are masked as “advice” when we were never invited to chime in in the first place. On the other hand, sometimes we’re extending “coping mechanisms” that come off as put-downs to disguise our own feelings of inadequacy.
When we strive to feel perfect, or expect our friends, family, and partners to be perfect in order to not trigger the parts of ourselves that we feel are lacking, we isolate instead of include.The last thing any mother, or parent, wants to feel is inadequate. True belonging happens when our authentic, imperfect selves are presented to the world. In the absence of shame, we can truly feel received.
In order to stop shaming, we have to be the first ones to stop judging each other. In fact, I’m proposing that we all commit to a “judgement cleanse,” which also means refraining from judging ourselves. For instance, my husband I and chose to go the breastfeeding route for all of our kids, but my middle one only wanted a bottle around five months. What felt like throwing in the towel was actually doing the appropriate thing, so I gave my baby formula. I remember judging myself and overcompensating to people by over-explaining why I had come to this decision. Didn’t they know it was only because he refused to drink from my breast? But let’s say the opposite were true. Let’s say he wanted breastmilk, but I couldn’t make that work. Let’s pretend I couldn’t produce milk, or that I just didn’t enjoy the breastfeeding experience—all of which are a reality for some moms. THAT’S OKAY!
The whole point is to be the best version of a parent and raise healthy, nice kids. So if that means feeding a baby formula out of a plastic bottle, we got to do what we gotta do. At the end of the day it is NOBODY’s business how or what I feed my children. I am a mom just trying to get by. We all are.
We should try to be better about treating each others’ choices with respect and understanding. You may have opinions about how another mom is disciplining her two year-old who’s throwing a tantrum at the park, disagree with what she’s giving her toddler for lunch, or want to lose it on the mom who can’t get her kid to stop crying on a cross-country flight. But you know what? She’s doing the best she can, too, just like you are on a day when your kids are being impossible. And it’s one thing to give your opinion or your advice when you’re asked for it, but pointing out what you think she’s doing wrong to make her feel bad is telling her that she isn’t enough, that she doesn’t belong, and that she’s not worthy.
So, if you see a mom being shamed or simply having a tough time, step in and offer some words of encouragement. If you feel quick to judge, opt for being kind instead (which is also sending some good kindness karma to yourself on a bad day, too). Extend her a hand, validate her, and let her know that she’s doing a great job. Your encouraging words can simply be, “Hey, this motherhood thing is really hard. I understand what you’re going through, and you’re kicking ass.”
Because if moms can’t support each other during the rough times, who will? Let’s try to remember that we’re all in this together, because loving ourselves through this process is the bravest thing we can do.
Thank you for sharing this! I feel the same way. We as moms need to lift each other up instead of shaming. We all are doing the best we can to provide for our families. We need to embrace this and learn from another.
Love this so much! Being a mom is hard, some days it’s harder than others and some days it’s easier, but it’s still hard. All we can do is do the best we can, be there for our children and be there for each other. No one is perfect and no one parenting method is better than the next, not really.
I couldn’t produce enough milk either time and had to substitute with formula. When my oldest stopped wanting to nurse at 6 months, I cried because I felt like I wasn’t doing enough for her. I was wrong, I did everything I could. There’s too much judgement going on today and not enough compassion and kindness. I love you, Gen! Thank you for this. ?❤
Gen. Omg you hit the nail on the head. Im a mum with a child that never got invited to a birthday party. Who had no friends and i am not exaggerating. She started cutting herself in grade 4. There were days when i was so defeated and no one said hey what can we do to help you let alone how can we help her. She was judged as being naughty and i was judged by nearly every mother.. lucky for my girl i was able to rise above it but she couldnt. Her life has been irrevocably altered by judgement and shaming. As it turns out she suffers from bi polar which was only escalated by all those around her. So we chose to love ourselves and each other. I have nearly lost her twice but she is 22. Not on drugs. Not pregnant. Living independently and more importantly alive. I often wonder how different it would of been if we were accepted and supported more in the early days… thanks for speaking out about how much a kind word is more appropriate and needed in EVERY INSTANCE
Well said, and a long time coming. I’ve been wondering how long it would take you to lay it all on the line and tell people to STOP already with the ridiclous and sometimes nasty comments. You expressed yourself well in this article, and I believe you spoke for thousands of mothers who are sick of people spewing their opinions where it isn’t wanted or needed. BRAVO!
I’ve been a mom for 17 years now, and I’ve seen so much and had a lot go on that folks felt they needed to comment on. It used to bother me A LOT. What was I doing so wrong that everyone had to point out my wrongness? Was I messing up my little boy? After a while I learned to tune out the nitpickers in my life. My son is a healthy, happy young man that I’m super proud of, and at the end of the day that’s the main thing.???
Well put….
I practice not giving my input if not asked and always be kind/ encouraging.
Being judgemental is also a mechanism of control.
Many need to relax and give themselves permission to just live and let live instead of this rigid, controlling perspective. They inflict it on themselves and then by extension, others.
You tell them Gen! Your kids seem happy and healthy so people should just stop with the judgement. I can’t imagine how hard it is a Mum as it’s exhausting enough being Aunty for a few hours. Kudos to those who dedicate their lives to a really tough and underrated job xxx
I had such a hugely positive experience online as a writer and in fandom that when I got pregnant in 2008, I immediately joined the Pregnant community on my favorite blog site. I have never seen such shaming to the point of bullying conducted by adult women before, and I grew up in the Pentecostal church!
First, at 38 I was told I was too old: “You’re only two years younger than my mom!” When I explained that we had 15 years of infertility “You shouldn’t force your body to get pregnant with fertility drugs, if it didn’t happen naturally, that was your body telling you it wasn’t supposed to.” When I explained that I DID get pregnant naturally, it just happened at 38 instead of 28, and that I was happy to be pregnant in my 30s because I had time to grow up and be young and silly, go to college and have time alone with my husband, I was then judging THEM. They told moms who had severe latch issues and babies who were too sick to nurse and even a mom who had had a double matectomy that there was NO excuse for not breastfeeding. The mom with no breasts? She should try breastfeeding from the ducts in her armpits. I didn’t stay with that community long.
My son will be 10 in August. I have overall been lucky in lack of mom-shaming in real life despite only nursing for 3 months, putting him in his crib at 6 months, using disposable diapers, vaccinating him, even sending him to private school. I did baby wear, take 5 years off of work, make his baby food, and I didn’t circumcise him, so maybe I hit a happy shame medium? I also had few mom’s in my peer group with newborns by the time I got pregnant. I’m also not an actress with a lifestyle blog who has non-parents and parents alike eager to comment on my children, my marriage, my career choices, and my body just because they watch a TV show my husband and I were on. You’re a stronger woman than I, Genevieve Padalecki!
Oh, and I totally take Jonah, age 9, for a pedicure with me once a month and he gets to pick a color. He usually picks pink. 🙂
I’m not one to comment but this is definitely one of the best things I’ve read in a really long time. I had my first son at 23 and my second at 25. Because I was young people constantly felt the need to tell me what to do, and how to do it. And if I did it “wrong” they made sure to let me know. It was so frustrating! I am now 31, and while the comments and criticism from family and friends have stopped as far as what to feed my kids, when they need to go to bed, how much tv they can watch or when they can use their iPads, some new criticism is rolling in. My five year old loves when I paint his nails. Recently he’s asked for me to put eyeshadow on him, which I do. I am teaching my kids that gender norms don’t exist. Makeup and nail polish isn’t just for girls. I am teaching my boys to be open and accepting. A lot of my family and friends, even strangers on social media have something negative to say when I share photos of my son wearing makeup or nail polish. I know I’m doing the right thing in how I’m raising my kids, I am doing my absolute best. And as long as my kids are happy and healthy and grow up knowing they are loved, that’s all that matters. Anyways thank you for writing something that truly spoke to me. You’re doing a great job as a mom and don’t let anyone tell you different! Keep it up!!
Gen, this is the best article on your blog (so far). As someone who couldn’t breast feed my oldest, I received so much unnecessary hurtful criticism, although I did tell those people where to stick it 😉
Considering the size of their father, I would’ve been surprised if you didn’t have a large bump (because you’re petite on top of it all!). Ignore the haters and trolls, just do what’s best for your kids.
Hi Gen,
i agree on everything you wrote. My second child (my daughter) startet crying when she was three weeks old. She’d cry straight through 16 hours a day, leaving my son and me (and my husband as well) exhausted, frustrated and (i’m still ashamed to admit it) aggressive as time went by. This went on for eight months. There was no way to breast feed her, she wouldn’t even drink from the bottle and she never put on enough weight. All the “advice“ i received during this time made me feel like i was deliberately trying to “kill“ our daughter…
Thank you for speaking up for all of us. You’re doing a great job. As a mother, a wife and as a woman.
I really enjoyed this post as it rings SO true. I’m a mom of two young children and have definitely been judged since becoming a mom. It’s a hard thing being a parent since no one knows what they’re doing and to be put down about it is Ludacris. I’ve found a very small tribe of my own that I stick with that are very supportive and uplifting. Being a mom is the hardest job I’ve ever had but I wouldn’t change it for the world, I love my babies to no end.
Wonderful words Gen. And your exactly right. As mothers we should stick together, and I think you’ve done a fantastic job with your children. I couldn’t breastfeed any of my children. My first because I was still in high school and I wasn’t home often enough to do it . My second because she would not take the breast, and my youngest because I had a full-time job. But they all turned out great. I buried my oldest daughter in 2011 it was the most difficult thing I’ve had to do in my life and I felt very inadequate at the mother. My children turned out to be wonderful adults okay. So you keep going, you keep loving your babies, and your husband, and know that I have your back. You are enough, and thank you for voicing words that help us all see how kindness can go a long way.♡♡♡♡♡
Gen you are a wonderful person and a fantastic mother. You are more than enough. You can tell how much you love your babies, and your husband. Showing kindness is what’s important. Bottle-fed or breastfed children, will become adults, and live by the example their parents set. So you have nothing to worry about your children will be wonderful, kind, smart, supportive, and compassionate adults. you are ENOUGH. WE ARE ALL ENOUGH. ♡♡♡♡♡ keep being you, and keep setting the example for other mothers and women. You are an inspiration.
I love this!! Moms often don’t see that what they’re going through is okay. I don’t judge mom’s because I don’t know them, their kid/kids, and their life situation. It NOT my job to judge people, its my job yo make sure they know that they’re loved and appreciated. That doesn’t just go for moms, it goes for everyone
I understand what you’re going through. I’ve been there myself when I was raising my son as a single mother. I also went through it yet again when I became a grandmother. It’s hard to not feel bad when you get some advice that you know is just a disguise for criticism. I get satisfaction out of seeing a fine young man that my son turned out to be and that validates I was doing the right thing. Hang in there, much love and respect, Donna.
This is pretty awesome and I loved it. I have never talked bad about a mom because well… they can raise their kids they way the want to. Those women are doing their best to make people that will walk the earth. I’m just a teenager but I know what kind of mother I want to be and I will do my best and always try to speak up for me and those mothers out there. Because I also have a mother too and I know that is hard and that she’s doing her job the best she can so I can be a good human and to be part of the society around me.
Gen YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY ENOUGH! This article was wonderful. You are wonderful. Your children are happy and healthy, and you (and your husband) are the only one who should decide whether you breast feed, cosleep, keep a schedule, paint nails, anything. . . I have always been impressed with the stuff you have shared with us. I think, from what I can see, that you guys are doing a great job- however you are raising them. Keep doing what you are doing, and ignore the naysayers.
I am not a mom but I did enjoy reading this and I wanted to thank you for saying all of this. You are truely a grat role model. I do judge people enen though I try not too but I at least keep it for my self and don’t say it to tem online or in person because you never know what someone is going true. Once again thank you for writing this sending my love to you and your family from Serbia <3
Yes!!! I just recently became a mother on April 23. I breastfeed my son but I also supplement with formula because I’ve had trouble with milk supply. Some people say “Breast is best” but I think fed is best. When it all boils down, you have to do what is best for your child and not someone else’s child. That’s the biggest lesson I’ve learned so far in motherhood. ( Even though there’s more lessons to be learned down the road) Thank you for posting! ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing this <3
I am about to become a new mum (any day now!!) and this just spoke to me. I have no idea how I’m going to go, but I know I’ll give it my best and my all .. and that that’s enough.
Again, thank you for sharing. You’re seriously an incredible woman and mother.
i’m not a mom, nor do i plan to be, but the second i read ‘… or want to lose it on the mom who can’t get her kid to stop crying on a cross-country flight,’ i pictured myself on a flight with an upset child and my brain automatically supplied me asking the mom if she’d mind me trying to help the child calm down, even if i’m just the distraction by making weird faces or something (people need to be more understanding and more willing to help others, ugh!). society is far too hard on mothers… everyone has an opinion and at the end of the day, *you* are the only one who knows your child’s wants and needs and none of that should ever be shamed. xoxo
Thank you so much for sharing this. We have to lift each other up and encourage one another. No one is a true parenting “expert”. Gen, your children are beautiful and happy because of you and Jared. You are doing an amazing job!!! Thank you so much for everything that you do.
I love this post! Lately I’ve had family make backhanded comments about how I raise my son. This shaming is not necessary and I constantly need to remind myself to not take it personally. I commend you for posting what many moms feel.
Great post, and I firmly agree that we have to get to a point of acceptance for all people then pass that on to parents. I’m not able to have children and that was always a huge thing for me, as I was always the maternal one. But I’ve always respected any parenting decisions, regardless. I figure if this being game from your body, unless you are directly putting them in harm, you have your reasons for the way you are raising them. Some could be from research on certain styles, some could be familial traditions. Either way, the child came from you. You know what is right and no one should tell you different. Personally, you kick butt, Gen!
I’m 47. My daughters are 18 and 22. I still get judged. I used to hear, “you have raised them so well. You have good girls. You must be proud of them.” My husband got killed when they were 5 y/o and 11 m/o. I didn’t remarry. (Both his parents are gone also.) Now? People think my daughters are making wrong choices. I guess. They don’t say it to me, but it gets back to my parents. It hurts them. Then they put the pressure on me to do something to my grown daughters to “make” them do right. If they need me I’m here. If not, it’s time for me. Me time at Me con. ?
I have also been mom shamed. The sad part of this is that it was my own mother that shamed me. Whether it be from eating a little more than I “should have” to why I would let my kids have a little more freedom than I had when I was a kid. My kids are 23 and 19 and she still goes at me from time to time about what my kids are doing and how I can just let them do it. Try hard to ignore her crap, but when it’s your mother telling you you are basically a bad mom, it’s hard to ignore. Gen, you are a great mom and have beautiful kids. Unfortunately, we live in a time that thinks it’s ok to insult everyone so that they feel better about themselves. You guys are great parents. It shows how much you love your kids. Keep it up.
This is beautiful!! As a mom of a 10 month old who is our first child I have had numerous people give “advice” on how to raise him. This is a reminder to raise my child they way that works best for us!
Gen, thank you for Sharing this!! You are so right! Your post helps me a lot, I’ve joined this motherhood journey just 2 weeks ago with my first baby. So thank you! And please keep posting, it really helps!
Gen, thank you for Sharing this!! You are so right! Your post helps me a lot, I’ve joined this motherhood journey just 2 weeks ago with my first baby. So thank you! And please keep posting, it really helps!
Thank you! This is an amazing post! Being a mom is hard and we must all encourage and support each other, so thank you for taking time to do just that!
I agree with you. So many women turn raising babies into a fierce Olympic competition. When my son was diagnosed with autism, he reached some of the milestones much later. I was ok with this. I wasn’t competing. I planned to be, but my 43 year old body wasn’t entirely good with that so we supplemented formula. That was ok too. Just enjoy this time because it flies by so quickly. Dontblet anyone ruin your journey
I can do relate to feeling inadequate, like I wasn’t the best mom. I tried to breastfeed my girls and wasn’t able to get the technique down with my first daughter. With my second, she ended up getting ‘breastmilk jaundice’. This had me overwhelmed with guilt. She had to go so much to the Doctor to have her little heel poked to get blood and it lthey looked like pincushions. She had to lay in the window to get the necessary sunlight. I feel we are our worst critic. The guilt I still feel today and they are going to be 25 and 23 in a couple of months.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts
Anita
Coming across this post could NOT have come at a better time. Just this past week I’ve been mom-shamed, accused of being disengaged in my child’s life because I work full time and am not able to volunteer at her school. I’ve felt endlessly hurt, angry and guilty. This post let me take the first deep, cleansing breath in days. It helped me regain a little bit of my pride in the choices I’ve made for myself and my family. Thank you!
Yes! Every single thing you mentioned I’ve been shamed for the same. From not being able to breastfeed after 6 weeks due to lack of milk, allowing my son to sleep with me after he had a febrile seizure, how he eats, I even get judged for painting his toe nails. He loves the colors ??♀️ I’ve always told my friends Motherhood can be the most judgmental “hood” to be a part of. Thank you for sharing this & reminding others that we all are in this Mom thing together, one day at a time ❤️
I’m not even a mom and I love this! I’ve witnessed mom shaming too many times to count but it’s wider than that to be truthful. The shaming of women by women is so hurtful and unnecessary! If a woman hasn’t married what is wrong with her? If she did marry but didn’t have children what is wrong with her? Those questions can break her heart over and over again. Marriage and motherhood may have been her heart’s desire or not, why do people think that they’re entitled to share their opinions?
Let’s all try to be kind, we’ll all win if we do!
Thank you, what a great subject! We are all doing the best we truly can and mothering, and for us single Moms, fathering too, is sooooo hard. We need to be easier on ourselves. But, I have to mention our Mothers, I have an amazing Mom, so grateful to have her, every day. But, her censor flipped “off” when she became a Grandma! Seriously, sometimes very unwanted comments and advice. I hope I’m not the only daughter who feels this way. And, derailing me, when I say no, the kids know Grammy always says yes, it’s a never ending battle. It’s like I’m in a bad marriage with my Mom, lol ?
Thank you for this. I forget sometimes that I’m not the only one having a tough time and we do need to be more supportive and less judgy. I had an experiance at Target once where my son and I were having a rough go and the woman ajead of me at the checkout told me I was doing a great job. Just that one little comment made all the difference. Go moms!
Honest and open. Loved this! I’d say this is more than just moms, in general society is very judgemental. I think as women, the nurtures, we need to stop judging people bc they’re different. I’m not a mom and it’s disheartening when so many ask why, or try to tell me how much better, fuller my life would be with kids. It’s equally insulting amd hurtful. I am expected to justify why I do not.
Thank you for sharing this!!!
Like every mom out there, I have questioned if I am doing what is right for my kids. From what they are eating (or not eating), to movies, and friends. But I realized that I was driving myself crazy trying to second guess every decision.
Yet, I have caught myself criticizing moms in my head for their babies crying in the store. But then I will look at my own babies and know that although they may be sitting quietly in the shopping basket at that moment, I have had my own frustrations and understand that we are only doing our best.
As I go to bed each night , I am wondering what mistakes I made that day and what I should have done differently. Then I see their smiles or hear their giggles in my head and I know that although they ate an extra cupcake after dinner, i have loved my babies unconditionally and made sure they know that. In my eyes, that makes me the best mom I can be! And each mom needs remember that every day.
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This really touched home with me, not as a mother, but as a daughter who understands the struggles of motherhood. My own mother raised me by herself and juggled two jobs just to keep food on our table. She always did her best to teach me right from wrong, to support me, and to just raise me to be a decent human being. She often received criticism about her parenting (even in my presence) from strangers to even friends and family. It always broke my heart to hear it as I knew she was doing her best. No one is perfect and there is no such thing as a perfect parent. I really wish that there had been someone to say this to my mom while I was growing up, a few words of encouragement can go a long way.
I have had people that I was a bad mother because I walked my girls to school every day until they were old enough to tell me when they were ready to walk alone. I bought them cell phones just to tell me when they arrived at school. I was and still am a stay at home mom from day one. I never got a babysitter unless it was my parents. But other mother’s judged me. I felt alone but not wrong.
This is a great topic, it is so true. I am a single mom with 11 kids. I have had my fair share of rude, obnoxious, and insensitive others telling me all about what I do wrong with my kids. Even church leaders telling me I was not a good mom for not marrying and giving my kids a dad. (Smh)
It is unbelievable to me. I am the one home caring for my kids while the other parent decided to abandon the situation. And I get to deal with that too?
We have to start building each other up, taking responsibility for how we make others feel and stop the judgement of others.
I believe as mothers, if we provide our kids with love, respect for others, as well as themselves, manners and empathy for all living things, then we’ve done our jobs. No, one way, is the right way!! Do it the way that works for you and yours!!
Thank you so much for your honest opinion on the whole “mom shaming” thing. Its really just as bad as bullying and all of it needs to stop. We raise our children for ourselves, not for others. What works for one Mother/Father may not work for another, and thats ok! Thats why we do what we think is best for OUR child(ren).
Thank you! Thank you for putting it into much better words than I ever could. The subtle digs we take at each other are overwhelming sometimes, as are the outright judgments. Being a mom is already tough enough. We definitely don’t need to be made to feel worse. I’ll be making the extra effort to reach out to other moms. Good reminder that we’re all in this together. Y’all have a beautiful family. Keep up the great writing! Thanks, again.
I chose not to breastfeed my two children. Can you imagine the criticism? Whatever you imagined, triple it. I don’t know how many times I said “I respect your decision to breastfeed. I need you to respect my decision not to”. I think it’s all about respecting each other and supporting your fellow moms. We all struggle, we all do the best we can and that is enough. We are enough. Thanks for the great post, Gen.
I agree with you Gen. I have know idea if I’m being mom shamed. If I am I don’t hear but a lot of people are afraid of me because I look angry or mad not on purpose. I know people probably didn’t like it when I let my son grow his hair out he asked if he could I told has long has you take care of it. I’m a redhead (my kid’s also) so I heard my kids complain about being a redhead. I would tell them famous people that they knew that are redheads and also tell them that when people say that stuff to them about being a redhead (or any hair color) that they are just jealous because they don’t have that color. I tried to tell my kids(now 18 and 15) to do what they believe in. My dad was dad shamed because he raised my sister and I to speak our opinion and believe and do what we wanted in life. He didn’t care what anyone thinks I tell my kids the same thing. My son didn’t make a varsity sport because of his long hair. It’s also one of the reason he didn’t get his Eagle for Boyscouts. It’s an on going problem there’s not enough people like yourself to help fix it. I’m sorry I can keep going. Im writing from LeRoy, NY . Have a good night.
Thanks for writing this blog.
Sandy Parks
Thank you for this insightful post. I’m not a mother, but much of what you say applies to everyone anyway. As someone who is childless by choice I get a lot of judgmental comments. But I know what’s right for me and my husband. Being kind to others is always the right choice. Thanks for your honesty and for being such a positive role model.
I have never believed in shaming anyone in the way they parenting, especially if the kiddos was healthy & happy. Never let ANYONE get you down for being a good mother. Parenting is hard and it is even harder if we don’t support each other.
P.S. Let me know if you ever need some good trails to hit up next time you are in Seattle.
Thank you for speaking this truth!
Criticism is usually not helpful, beneficial or coming from a place of helping. This should be shut down. Especially among mothers!
Though, I have a different take on unsolicited advice. I’ve found that we can learn so much that we wouldn’t have thought to ask if we’re open to other’s input. We don’t have to follow the advice but a “thank you for sharing that view/opinion/info” rarely harms us and sometimes we even get helpful tidbits we can use. And because parenting is tough we can use ALL the help we can get no?
Also, Some people show their care by offering “helpful” advice. It can come off pushy but if I can remember their “why”-that they care- it’s not taken as veiled criticism but as an “I love you”.
So true. Everything you wrote is so true. Standing up for yourself and all women like this so brave and wonderful … good for you, Gen! And thank you from one mother to another. <3
Well Kudos to you Gen!???? For someone like me who was mom shamed for 25 yrs, I’m very happy to see someone standing up for the fact that “we’re all just doing the best we can”. I will give you all a little hint of why I had been “Mommy Shamed” for so many years…simply because I was a teenage mother. Ladies…that is definitely a stigma you don’t get rid of unless your children do what others think is “right” in life. I had all 4 of my children by the age of 23, and yeah I’ll bet anyone reading this truthfully has a though or two about me…something I’ve been use to my whole (almost 29 years of being a parent in July)??, but you know what…I simply never cared what anyone thought about me, my age, my parenting skills, or lack thereof (in others eyes). My goal and mission in this life was to create the best, caring, loving, respectful, devoted, passionate, strong and hardworking independent individuals this world is lucky to have in life. So I made sure I did all that along with finishing school, getting certified as a Medical Assistant and also as a Paralegal later in life, all while working raising my kids and running a household. It wasn’t easy, but boy are they all worth it! My point ladies is…don’t invest too much time in other people’s opinions of you…if you do…you’re just giving in to something that none of have control over, and that is someone else’s mind. I knew I could never change someone’s harsh or unreasonable thinking of me, but I knew I had the ability to raise what most people have referred to as “some incredibly amazing individuals” I was blessed to have had the opportunity to raise.??❤? Oh…as of today I am a almost 45 year old mother who gave birth to 5 children ( one a surrogate child), and a Oma (grandmother) of a 3 year old. ?❤?
Gen, I truly don’t hope you take this the wrong way, but I too would have been one of those women who would have made that statement about you and @dannielackles because truthfully… some of us envy you all for having the ability and time to take care of yourself so well because we couldn’t or haven’t figured out how to maintain our schedules to fit in time for healthier women. I don’t think it’s a backhanded insult to any of you…It’s that self mommy shaming we do to ourselves for not being as in shape or beautiful as you all are.
I know this was a long one, but at the age of almost 45 I know what the affects are of being Mommy Shamed, and I have nothing but time on my hands to make a statement on some of these blogs…because all the hard work I put in to raising great individuals in life to meet my bar, had unfortunately left me with some debilitating genetic diseases that have taken away a lot of what my husband and I would have thought we’re going to be our golden years to travel the world.
So ladies…take the time to take care of both…yourselves and your children and don’t ever let society or other people’s opinions define you…you define you. Just raise your kids to be the best versions of you this world would be proud to have.????❤?
This is my first time reading your blog although I follow you on Instagram. The funny thing is that I have said things to other moms that I meant as a sincere compliment that I now realize may have come off as being judgmental. Reading your blog reminded me to really pause for a moment before releasing word vomit (especially if you never intended it to be such)
I have a 6yr old son that at times can be a little on the ride side. I am quick to correct him. It is my obligation as a mother to ensure that he become the best version of himself. We were walking into a store and just before we entered he sassed me. I corrected him in a firm tone. (10 years prior military means my firm also included volume. Not to mention that is just who I am…Loud) Just then the doors opened and a muddled aged woman looked me up and down and with hesitation stated “oh wow” as though I was in the wrong for correcting.
For a moment I felt small. I was almost embarrassed and I instantly wanted to give an explanation and apologize for parenting him. I almost left the store, but instead I looked this woman in the eye and explained: Wow? Why? Because I used a firm voice that also happened to be loud enough to be heard but not yelling? I am raising a little person that I will eventually turn loose in the world…he needs my guidance. He needs discipline. I am not overly tough on my son. He is a free spirit. But, please don’t say wow as though I am wrong.
My son took my hand and as we walked away he looked at me and said “I’m sorry mommy”. I don’t know if he felt he had created an issue or if he realized he was too sassy with me. The point is that for a moment I felt like I needed to answer to a complete stranger.
Thank you for this post. Thank you for reminding all of that being a mom is hard enough without the weight of judgement from other moms. We should be a team. Givers of support.
❤️
I agree so passionately with this post! By his own choice my son had long curly hair down to his shoulder blades until he was 5, when he decided one day that he wanted shaved hair. The amount of times he was referred to as a girl, or comments were made about how maybe long hair wasn’t a healthy choice for a young boy in case he got teased blew my mind – comments all made by adults, other parents, and never any of his friends or schoolmates, which says a lot. Or the snide comment from an aunt of mine (that had never actually met my son) that he watches too much TV because that’s what she sees in my social media posts; in actual fact, my son is very active and when he’s sitting down and watching TV I can finally get a picture of him that isn’t blurry! We’ve also experienced the painted nails stigma, which he was blissfully unaware of, thankfully. Family, friends, and even strangers should absolutely be there to support you in your journey into and throughout parenthood, it’s hard enough already. Your own worries and concerns don’t need to be magnified by judgemental input from the outside world. I say focus on your kid(s) and yourself, enjoy and encourage who they are and allow them to feel as much happiness as they give you.
Thanks for sharing this! I feel sorry for moms out there that are shamed for raising their children their way. I believe that just like all people are different, each child is different. So I assume that the way you raise one, doesn’t necessarily mean you can apply that to the other. Unfortunately, I can’t have children, so I will never know what it’s like. And I’ve found that there’s is also shaming towards the women that do not have children. Where I work, many families visit and some parents will leave there kids unsupervised. If I see these kids do something they aren’t allowed to do or might be dangerous, I will tell them off. Most often then not, the moms will tell me off. They ask me if I have kids and when I say no, they tell me: no kids no opinion.
So I am wondering, am I in the wrong?
Aw this has touched my heart so much, you are an absolutely gorgeous mother with 3 absolutely gorgeous children. I think any woman would be proud to be half the mother you are ? chin up girly we all love you ?
I have two grown children. My daughter is twenty years old. She’s pregnant. Last Friday, she learned that her first child would be a son. Soon I will be a grandmother. I am very pleased, and I really want to save my daughter from judgment. Unfortunately, there are too many such “well-wishers” that I think are possible to judge others! Thank you, Genevieve, that you touched upon such an important topic for all mothers. From Ukraine whith love
Compliments are a very delicate matter. That for some people a compliment, for others can be a very serious insult and hurt their feelings. Let no one ever hurt your feelings. May the Lord bless your whole family.
I have been struggling with mental health issues all my life. A few years ago, I found THE shrink that helped me the most amongst the multitude of shrinks I have been in therapy with before. I had not wanted kids for over 20 years, mostly because my PTSD is due to a bad relationship with my father and having been bullied my entire life. Now, I do because I understood that it wasn’t my fault and I am a good person, I am enough. (we had a Good Will Hunting moment, my shrink and I) But, it might be too late because I’ll be 41 in less than a month and have been struggling to meet someone to be my partner and father to my children. When I look at your family, I only see love and it fills my heart with hope that the world is not doomed. I have been judgmental and I am working on that bit now. I take any kind of criticism very badly. I know it’s hard, if not impossible, to avoid some trolls (online and in real life), but what matters most is what you feel is important to you and your family. You are beautiful inside and out! Keep up the good work because you are inspiring to many of us younger and older women out there.
I love what you are saying and it is so true to many people today are quick to point fingers and not quick enough to lend a helping hand. No one is born a mother it’s something we learn as we go. It’s the love we give and create in home with our families that matter most. It’s like the old saying that my nana always said if you can’t say anything nice then don’t say anything at all.
Thank you Gen. My hope is the same as yours. NO MORE SHAMING!!! I am shamed in a pretty regular basis. I used to work full time and do it all. Mom of 4. Cook clean. Now, for the past 3 years I’ve had to stay home due to health issues. I’m shamed when I’m in too much pain to cook. Or if the laundry is t folded. Or when people come to our house and it’s not perfectly clean. My own brother shames me every time he sees me. It’s very upsetting. I think we do enough second guessing to ourselves. We do not need others doing that to us also. Xoxo Jess
Thank you! It is so important for every young mom to know it is not easy. Don’t be afraid, you are doing an amazing job. My kids are teens, but I know exactly what you mean. I never listened to people who “knew better”. I always listened to my hart. My children are my mirrors and I see love. Love from Switzerland!
My son is on the autistic spectrum and was diagnosed with Asperger’s at six. Prior to that we knew something was different, but had no answers. As such he often behaved differently to other children and this led to my then husband and I being judged as parents on a daily basis.
We were alienated by the other parents at school who also encouraged their children to alienate my son, they criticised the decisions I made and how I approached everything from showing affection and support to behaviour management. I felt lost and alone because of the judgement of others.
Once we understood why he behaved differently, I started to talk to their parents who had children with the same issues and all of them had experienced the same criticism, judgement and alienation from other patents, particularly mothers.
I have learnt so much through this experience and have taught my children as they have grown not to judge others. Thank you for shining a spotlight on this.
Absolutely love this. I am not a Mother yet but love reading and learning all this useful and amazing material to not only help me as a Mother in the future but also to understand Moms better. You are such an incredible person for choosing to help others on top of everything else you do! ♡
Thank you for writing this post and I support you in this. I am almost 48 years old, and I have survived the many judgments laid upon me. It was painful. I would like to thank my therapist for helping me reach an emotional place in which the judgments don’t hurt me (as much). I was able to rise above it. Therapy. Therapy. Therapy. I take care of my mental health. It has allowed me to let go of people who are emotionally driven by deeply held insecurities and negative behaviors. That said, I’m a semi-private person. I don’t have to live in the public life, nor would I want to. You’re life is obviously much different when dealing with the judgments brought to you through celebrity status, and the judgments often are contrary to your beliefs concerning how to be the best mother for your children. I can’t imagine what it’s like having to protect and educate your children in that arena. Stay strong. Strength, character, ethics, personal morality, and kindness provides us with the knowledge and skills we need to raise our children to be loving and respectful human beings. Peace to you.
Thank you for writing this post. As a parent of adult children I find that I have been guilty of mom shaming. I’ve never actually said my thoughts out loud but in my mind I’ve shamed parents with young children. Thank you for pointing this out to me and I promise to be more kind in my mind.
I honestly believe that you are doing great with your children. Keep up the great work.
My ‘babies’ are now 23 & 20. I feel like I did so many things ‘’wrong’ while they were growing up (especially when we were around my mom). But you know what? I see 2 healthy, polite, smaller, funny and thriving adults now. And while I won’t take full credit for them, I take a lot of it, with my husband of course. I often tell him, “I don’t know what we did, but something worked. They are great.” When I see young parents who seem tired, frustrated, scared, etc … I always think and often say, “Just do what is in your heart. Be present, be strong, be consistent and just Be.” Love you, Gen.
Than you for this! It was so needed. As
Moms, we should be strong woen wodking together to support each other, not tearing down each ofhers choices. Kids are HARD, and they don’t coe with instruction manuals!
Thank you, thank you, thank you !! As a Mom of a 24, 16, and 10 year old, I can say they’re ALL different in personalty and temperament. I have been both judged and praised by other Mom’s. I love that you said ” you’re ENOUGH” God gave us these amazing humans to care for and we do our very best !! Keep up the great advice and know that you TOO are ENOUGH ?❤️?
((Hugs from Michigan)) – Laurie V.
Thank you, thank you, thank you !! As a Mom of a 24, 16, and 10 year old, I can say they’re ALL different in personalty and temperament. I have been both judged and praised by other Mom’s. I love that you said ” you’re ENOUGH” God gave us these amazing humans to care for and we do our very best !! Keep up the great advice and know that you TOO are ENOUGH ?❤️?
((Hugs from Michigan)) – Laurie V.
The mom-shaming has gotten to a ridiculous point nowadays. With Instagram, the second anyone posts a photo of something to do with their kid, there’s always a person or two who points out something. A snapshot in the moment apparently gives the illusion that it’s fact, and people are harsh. I think so long as a child is well-fed, nurtured, and mentally and physically supported, then keep opinions to yourself. The nail polish thing was bizarre to me, because it’s not a harmful thing in any way. Critics have no right and we all need to be more supportive and uplifting.
I’m not a mom but I’m an aunt to 10 year old niece & a 6 year old nephew & I’ve kinda had to help raise them. I also help to take care of my sister so I feel like a mom sometimes without being one yet. I get the nail polish thing because my nephew wanted to paint his nails like me & his sister & his mom does but he was afraid of what people would say at school the next week. I’m like, “You’re only a little kid having fun. It comes off!” So yes, thank you for sharing this. I don’t relate as personally but on some level I do. Kindness does help & I really hope others realize that more.
Thank you for sharing. As a parent of a child with mental health struggles I get the “well, if you would just…” statements almost daily. I can’t even imagine the judgement you must get raising your children in the public eye. While most of us only have to put up with our own circle of friends and a handful of strangers chiming in at the grocery store, you have to navigate thousands of prying eyes and “suggestions” from strangers daily. I applaud your resilience and willingness to be open about your life with all of us despite the criticism. Kudos to you and Jared and your beautiful children and thank you for helping to normalize and encourage acceptance. No one is perfect, we will all make mistakes. But as you saidn we are in this together!
I think being a public figure is even harder because your post are public and people can be very mean. I love that you do advertising and blogging, etc. Being able to work from home is a blessing. Spending time with your kids is great. I have 4 kids, and had the blessing of my husband (military) let me be at home mom (though I have gotten mom shame for it too.)
My mom thought me, to each its own. Be careful how you judge and what you wish because is Karma for you and for your kids. Very wise words I think, to this day I’m teaching the same to my 2 boys and 2 girls. I’ve been mommy shame for nursing all my kids until they were about 3yrs old, carrying them around too much or for too long, potty training, co sleeping, private school and now Independent school.etc. Some thing bad happened to me. Since then I decided, no explanations given and that is what we chose and that is what we do is the answer I give. The only one I explain things is to my husband, because he pays bills and puts food In our table. I see my 15 and 11yrs old who are taller than me, caring and indipendant, kids, and I don’t regret the things I was being mom shame for)
Personally I observed what other moms do, focus on what I like and I think I can use for my kids, depending their personalities and run with it. What is not my cup of tea, I don’t shame them for it, because I been there and it hurts, plus is bad Karma.
Thank you Gen for your heart felt words, may God keep blessing you and your family.
Thank you Genevieve for your heart felt post.
My mom told me to be careful how I judge and what and how I say things, because it is Karma for me and my kids. (my kids were not even born) personally I take what I like from my friends or other moms and run with it. What is not my cup of tea I don’t shame them for, been on the other side and it hurts. Plus my mom’s words resonate.
I love what you wrote here and I agree wholeheartedly. The best parenting advice I ever received was to ignore all parenting advice, pay attention to and really learn about my child, and do what feels right for our family at the time. When in doubt, call the pediatrician. And whenever my now teenage and tween children judge my parenting (usually because I’m making them do a chore they don’t want to do), I lovingly tell them to note it in their journals so that they can tell their future therapists how awful I was. (Lol)
Thank you for this. Motherhood is wonderful but also so so hard and made even harder by the judgement of others, judgement that is everywhere these days. Moreso than ever. I got judged for being a stay at home mam. I got judged for wanting to breastfeed my girls and then judged again when I had to give it up both times as the pain was excruciating. There is no judgement greater than that of breastfeeding mothers towards those who, for whatever reason, cannot or do not want to breastfeed. Then there’s the judgement when your Asperger teenager is having a meltdown in public and people immediately think bad parent/awful child without stopping to think there might be a hidden disability issue. Mothers need to be kinder to each other, not so condemning. A smile or a helping hand could be what it takes to turn a bad day around for a woman having a tough day.
Wow, Gen. Knocking it out of the park, with an issue I hadn’t realize was getting so bad. You’ve really shown light on the subject and as usually I’m proud of you for being braver the rest of us and talking about what needs to be talked about ❤❤
” At the end of the day it is NOBODY’s business how or what I feed my children. I am a mom just trying to get by. We all are.”
Absolutely! Couldn’t have said it better myself. We are the only ones who know what works for our children and why. Even “What to Expect When You’re Expecting” does not universally apply to all Moms. There are no “Mom Bibles.” If only it were that easy. We have to tune out the critical know-it-alls and do what’s best for OUR children no matter how many children or what degrees certain moms have.
You are such an inspiration not only to me but also to my two grown daughters.. and all three of us have experienced mom shaming and I think it’s so sad. I have the opinion that if my child is happy, healthy, and knows that I adore them ,then I am obviously doing something right and if they want me to kiss them, paint their nails, dress them up as Boy George then by God that’s what I’m going to do. You are a beautiful wonderful mother and it is obvious and I have a good feeling that the man in your life would not be with you if he thought otherwise. Please do not stop what you are doing keep inspiring me and my two girls keep inspiring all women to be strong independent and know that they are worthy of everything that they strive to have. I cannot tell you how much your blog has meant to me.. there have been moments in my life especially after my mother died that I truly thought that I wasn’t strong enough and your words of wisdom and encouragement helped me stand up and realize that even though she’s gone I am still here and still worthy and still entitled to be happy. Thank you for everything I cannot thank you enough because truly not only has Supernatural been a strong force in my life but your words to have been just as strong. I cannot tell you how happy I am that I found you and your words I know that I sound like a babbling fan here but you just really have no idea what you have done for me and my two girls thank you again we love you we support you in everything that you’re doing.
I’m not a mother but I love your post alot. Your kids are so happy. I think it’s awesome you take care of them instead of nannies or etc. My mom was at home mom I saw her struggle all the time. It’s hard. Your doing great.
I’m not a mom, but you inspire me as do all mom’s do. People need to realize there is no perfect way to raise children as each child and their needs are different. Some parenting styles work for one, while it doesn’t work for another. But, we have become such a judgmental society that no matter what you do – you’re in the wrong. Keep up the good, Mama. You got this.
Thanks Gen for sharing this. Many have tried to make me feel like an inadequate mom, and I say try because unless they are a certified pediatrician I never gave a rats ass about their opinion and did what I believed in my heart was the best for my daughter. None of us as the perfect solution and my solution may not be good for you or yours for me and it’s ok. This is why we are called individuals… Because we are each unique in our own way and our kids also… When I have birth the nurses made me feel so bad for not being able to breastfeed instead of helping me find a solution. I had to figure out for myself how to give the best to my baby. For 6 months I’ve used a pump and gave her my milk with a mix of formula. And she’s now a healthy 7 years old and I’m proud of what we accomplish everyday. Thanks again for being our voice xxx.
Gen, from what i see you are raising your kids well. To me what counts is love, cause love is the best way to do things. There is nor was never a guidebook of being a mom or wife. You chose these by loving the person enough and kids by always wanting to protected them. You chose by letting love guide you true desicions. And for me it has been always that, love will show you that what you do is enough that you are enough.
Gen you have a beautyful family and they all are happy (Jared included) so keep going you are doing just great. With love Iris M.
I nursed my daughter; had an awful time of it because I just couldn’t produce enough for her. We stuck it out for about six months, and it was mentally, physically, and emotionally exhausting. When my son was born, I tried again, but because of complications during his birth I ended up having two epidurals, which caused the worst spinal headache I have ever had-I couldn’t sit up without my head feeling like it was being split in two. After about a week of trying to nurse him, and either bawling because my head hurt so bad, or bawling because I tried lying down to nurse and he couldn’t latch on well, my mom said, “You know, both you and your sister were bottle babies and you both turned out fine.” I couldn’t believe the flak I got from several *friends*, that somehow I had failed my child because of how I chose to make sure he got fed! A week later he was diagnosed with pyloric stenosis and had surgery at two weeks of age. The same friends questioned our doctors and us for his surgery. You just can’t win with some people.
Hi Jen! This was very moving. My boys are much older now. 20 and 14, but I’ve been there and honestly done that too. It’s amazing when we can walk in truth about how we judge one another. Your blog is inspiring and brings awareness to how we should treat one another with humility. I’ve been judged as you have and honestly it’s hurtful. I’ve learned to not allow other people’s opinions dictate who I am as a woman or mother. Thank you for writing this blog. You’re an amazing woman and mother Jen. I hope others can be inspired by your words to keep pressing each day and walk in truth. God bless you!
You know, from every photo that i have seen, you have three loving, affectionate little ones who are not afraid or embarrassed to show that they love their parents, and one another. You teach your kids to eat clean, to enjoy the company of their family at holidays, to meditate, to exercise, my heavens, how much more can you teach them about being responsible, aware peole. You even teach you boys to stand up for women, and respect us as valuable people! I was in a grocery not long age, and a family passd by, he last being a little girl of about four, who, smiling, said “excuse me”. Without thinking, i said ” Good job Mom” She was shocked, and thanked me for recognising that she works hard to teach her kids to be kind people. If only we could all take a moment, just one moment, to recognize a mom…….Thanks.
Congrats Gen, it’s my first time here and I‘m really impress with your way of Writing. For sure, starting today,I am going to give suport words for desperate moms. And keep working in this blog, it’s really good!
You are so right! The mom shaming has to stop. As long as it’s not emotionally or physically abusive, how moms AND dads raise their children, is no one’s business but their own. So you painted your son’s fingernails. Big whoop! I don’t think that will “emasculate” him in the least. You and your children look healthy and happy, so you must be doing something right. I know it’s hard, I’ve been there, but ignore the people that only have something negative to say. Misery lives company, right?
I am an extremely non-judgemental person and always wish that others would be so, too. Unfortunately I had more than my share considering my parenting skills! I may be wrong sometimes (hey, I’m human! And everyone is a firsttimer parent as each kid is different or the circumstances are) but I definitely am a very dedicated mother and such comments ae hurtful and only fuelled my insecurities! So thanks thanks thanks for pouting this out and inspiring us to be a better person!
I love this post! Thank you so much for spreading the word of positivity and support. It took me a long time to trust my instincts insead of listening to what others told me was right for my son. Once I realized I was capable and that my insticts were spot on, I was able to parent without guilt or shame. Life is hard enough without criticizing one another, so why do it?
Very good read. I became a first-time mom in April when my husband and I were blessed with a newborn baby to adopt. I’m the type of person that immediately calls someone out if I feel they’re judgy or being passive aggressive. What I wasn’t prepared for is those that feel entitled to talk to me, interrupt me, and provide unsolicited advice that I don’t want. Having a baby with me does not give friends or strangers they right to provide me with unwanted attention. I realize it’s joyous to have a baby but this journey was long, emotional, and the hardest thing I’ve ever done. Frankly, sometimes I just don’t want to talk or engage and I certainly don’t want to hear judgement.
Thank you so much for sharing! My husband and I have been struggling with expanding our family and have decided on adoption. You would not believe the comments and we don’t even have a child yet! Someone actually tried to shame me because I wasn’t planning on breast feeding an adopted baby! Thank you for advocating for all moms!
I so agree with your words in this article and think you hit the nail on the head. We are all to quick to judge others when we don’t see the whole picture, let’s say. When you are doing your best and raising, healthy, happy, kind, caring children it is awesome. Mothers and others should be ashamed of shaming others. If they are not your children, you do not have the right to tell their parents how to raise them. Things have changed so much since I was a mother with a daughter and I think it is harder for the parents and the kids today. As my grandmother use to tell me, if you can’t say something nice or help someone, don’t say or do anything. Everyone needs encouragement and a feeling of selfworth. We should all encourage each other, be kind to each other, and help each other that we may be better ourselves.
Hi Gen,
Looks like not too many men are commenting here so I’m happy to provide a guy’s point of view. We were shocked at how many parents couldn’t wait to let us know, some in subtle ways and some not so subtle, that our baby wasn’t as smart, fast, strong, dleeping as well, or just all-around as incredible, as theirs, that we were lacking in this, wrong in that, that we should do what they did even if it sounded stupid…it took us by surprise until we realized that there are a lot of people out there who just want to elevate their own self image at the expense of yours. I found women to be especially brutal about breastfeeding and cesarian sections. I’m happy for all the women who wanted natural childbirth nd had it, and who wanted to breastfeed and had an easy time. But having a c-section or epidurals doesn’t make you any less a woman and doesn’t make you somehow defective (yes some people actually say this stuff). many women do not just roll out of bed knowing how to get the proper latch for breastfeeding or know what to do when their milk arrival is delayed a bit, and these struggles don’t make you any less a woman either. We all make our judgements about the parenting of others (God knows I sure do) but I keep those judgements to myself, which is where they belong. We like our parenting style but that doesn’t mean it’s the way everyone should do it. So when we meet people expecting their first baby we give the one single piece of advice (if they want it): Listen only to your baby and trust your instincts. 9 times out of 10 they will lead you the right way if you trust them. For the times you still have a problem, seek out advice from someone who’s been through it who you really trust. And you’ll be fine. Nice blog.
Don
Hell yeah! Perfect words everyone who has ever been mom shamed or been the guilty one shaming a mom trying her best! I read a quote somewhere that went something like ” show me a perfect mother and I’ll show you a unicorn dancing around a leprechaun at the end of a rainbow with a pot of gold and a fairy on his shoulder sprinkling glitter everywhere”. Way to go Mama!
As a mother, reading this has truly given me light at a dark time. I am so grateful that so many mothers get to talk with each other about these things and support each other. It really is tough. But, with love and support, we got This! Thank you, Gen. For bringing this to attention!
My mom get’s mom shamed about how strict she is with me but it called love she’s not that strict and she lets me watch ninjago so many times on reapet it’s an amzing movie . Thaks for inspiring me and my mom 💛
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Secret Tuesday - random rewards with variable wagering and caps
VIP level rewards - comp points, cashbacks and exclusive bonuses
Promotion
Trigger
Wagering
Welcome package
First and second deposit
40x wagering on deposit and bonus, max bet 8 NZD
Monday Free Spins
Deposits made on Monday
40x on winnings, min deposit 20
Fortune Wheel
Registration and qualifying deposits
40x on deposit and bonus, prize table caps apply
Experienced New Zealand players should treat Bizzo promotions as a tool to extend play and increase value when rules are followed closely. Always verify eligibility for each bonus, observe the 40x wagering norm for deposit offers and respect the max bet limits during any active promotion. Use the live chat team to confirm promo codes, activation windows and game exclusions when in doubt. Remember that comp points, Wheel spins and VIP rewards can add long term benefit - but all rewards depend on meeting specific wagering and verification requirements.
Gizbo Casino welcome offers for Germany
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Meet the 20 EUR minimum deposit to unlock first match bonus.
Complete KYC early to avoid withdrawal delays after wagering.
Check game contribution: slots count 100 percent toward wagering.
Observe 40x wagering and 5 EUR max bet while wagering bonuses.
Use mobile app to claim promotions and track bonus expiration times.
Contact 24/7 support if regional availability or bonus activation issues.
Offer
Key details
Welcome bonus
150 percent up to 600 EUR, 40x wagering
Free spins
Tiered rewards, credited on specified titles, 35x to 40x wagering
Cashback
Weekly 4 to 10 percent based on net weekly losses, tiered wagering
For German players evaluating Gizbo Casino welcome offers, careful reading of promo terms and wagering mechanics is essential. Check the minimum deposit requirements, game restrictions and maximum win limits before opting into a package, and remember that progress through the loyalty scheme can unlock enhanced birthday gifts, cashback and faster withdrawals. Verify your identity promptly to avoid delays when cashing out bonus-related wins, and use the native mobile app for easy bonus management on the go. Responsible play and contacting customer support when unsure will help ensure a smooth promotional experience.
Gizbo Casino bonuses and promotions for Canadian players
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Read full bonus terms and wagering contribution details before claiming.
Use slots that count 100 percent toward wagering whenever possible.
Keep individual bets under 5 EUR while wagering bonus funds.
Track expiry times, most bonuses expire 72 hours after activation.
Climb VIP ladder to reduce cashback wagering and speed withdrawals.
Contact 24/7 support for promo eligibility or activation questions anytime.
Bonus Type
Typical Offer
Wagering
Welcome
150% up to 600 EUR for new players
40X deposit+bonus
Free Spins
up to 600 FS tiered offers
35X winnings
Cashback
4-10% weekly rewards
varying 3X to 10X wagering
To make the most of Gizbo Casino promotions in Canada, always read the full promotional terms, confirm minimum deposit amounts and monitor expiry windows. Remember no-deposit bonuses and free spins often limit withdrawable winnings to 10X the bonus and most deposit bonuses count bets in slots at 100 percent. Keep individual bonus bets under 5 EUR and complete any required KYC checks for withdrawals over 1 250 EUR to avoid delays. If uncertain, contact 24/7 live chat or email support for clarification and to ensure any claimed offer is properly activated on your account before wagering safely.
Gratowin bonuses and promotions guide - UK players
Gratowin offers a comprehensive range of bonuses and promotions tailored to UK players looking for extra value while they explore slots and table games. New customers can claim a structured welcome package with three deposit stages, plus an instant 50 free spins sign-up reward. Regular promotions include Spinomania daily free spins, the Big Draw monthly raffle, weekly cashback tiers and reload offers such as Friday Fun. Understanding the terms - especially wagering multipliers, max bet restrictions and contribution percentages per game type - is essential to make the most of each promotion. For quick access to the official promotions page visit https://Gratowin.eu.com/
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50 Free Spins on registration - capped winnings €200.
Spinomania - deposit-based free spins up to 200 per deposit.
Weekly Cashback - up to 20% by VIP tier.
Big Draw - monthly €1,000 raffle and reload bonuses.
Friday Fun - reload bonuses tied to VIP level each week.
Promotion
Trigger
Key Terms
Welcome Package
First 3 deposits
100%/50%/150% up to €1,000 each - 35x
50 Free Spins
Registration
50 spins split across three games - winnings capped €200 - 35x
Spinomania
Deposit with code
1 spin per €1 up to 200 - min €20 - 50x
Weekly Cashback
Weekly net loss
Up to 20% by VIP level - 1x wagering
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Gratowin bonuses and promotions - Canada guide
Players in Canada often look for clear, valuable information about casino bonuses and promotions when choosing an online site. Gratowin offers a varied promotions calendar that includes a substantial welcome package, regular reload deals, daily free spins and cashback rewards tailored to VIP levels. Understanding wagering terms, expiry windows and game contribution rates helps Canadian players make smarter choices and avoid surprises when cashing out. Practical tips include checking minimum deposits, max bet limits, expiry periods and whether jackpots are excluded from promos. For live details and full promotional terms check the official site here: https://gratowincasino.co.com/ before you claim any offer.
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Always read full bonus terms including wagering, expiry and game contributions.
Note max bet limits - usually $2 when bonus is active - exceed may void wagering.
Check minimum deposit - Welcome offers often require $10 while Spinomania needs $20.
Look for free spins expiry - signup spins typically expire within 24 hours.
Use VIP status to increase cashback percentage and access exclusive reloads.
Save promo codes and verify eligibility - some promos require specific codes like WED100 or DRAW.
Promotion
Wagering
Min deposit
Welcome Package
35x bonus
$10
Spinomania Free Spins
50x winnings
$20
Weekly Cashback
1x bonus
Varies by VIP level
Smart Canadian players treat promotions as part of bankroll planning and always factor in wagering multipliers and contribution percentages. Gratowin delivers a wide range of offers from no-deposit free spins to multi-stage welcome packages and VIP cashback, but the true value depends on the fine print. Before you opt in, set deposit limits, validate eligibility and consider how long you will play to meet playthrough rules. If in doubt contact Gratowin support via live chat or email for clarification so you can enjoy bonuses responsibly and maximize value from each promotion.
Hugo Casino Bonuses and Promotions - Canada guide
Hugo Casino runs a broad and dynamic bonus ecosystem tailored for Canadian players, with welcome packages, reloads, cashback and weekly free spin drops designed to boost bankrolls and engagement. The welcome package combines multiple deposit matches and hundreds of free spins, while recurring offers come with specific activation rules and wagering conditions that demand careful reading. Promotions often have maximum cashout limits, game exclusions and a strict maximum bet per spin when using bonus funds, so players should verify terms before claiming any promotion. For step-by-step activation, loyalty progression and detailed rules see the official site Hugo Casino. Customer support can help with activation queries quickly.
Canadian players should pay special attention to Hugo Casino promotional mechanics, including 45x wagering for most deposit bonuses and 30x for cashback credits. Free spin winnings usually carry strict maximum cashout limits in CAD, often 75 CAD per campaign, and bonuses may be valid for only seven days. Many weekly promotions require manual activation via live chat or support email after making a qualifying deposit, so keep records of promo codes and chat confirmations. Remember the universal maximum bet limit while wagering bonus funds is the equivalent of 5 EUR, which may be converted to CAD at the time of play. Always check excluded games lists.
Read full terms including wagering expiry and max cashout.
Keep promo codes and chat confirmations for proof.
Activate day-specific offers after qualifying deposits promptly.
Track free spin expiry and game eligibility carefully.
Remember cashback requires weekly deposit minimum and real-balance cap.
Avoid bets over the max bonus bet limit to prevent confiscation.
Bonus Type
Key Terms
CAD Example
Welcome Bonus
45x wagering on deposit and bonus
Up to 700 CAD cashout
Cashback
30x wagering on cashback amount
Requires €50 weekly deposits
Free Spins
45x wagering on winnings
Free spin max cashout 75 CAD
To make the most of Hugo Casino promotional offers in Canada, prioritize offers that match your playstyle, verify all terms and expiry windows, and avoid risky strategies that could be deemed bonus abuse. Keep wagering math in mind - a 45x requirement can dramatically extend playtime and reduce withdrawable cash - and never exceed the stated maximum bet when bonus funds are active. Use live chat to confirm manual activations and save screenshots of confirmations. Treat cashback and reloads as conditional funds, and manage bankrolls responsibly so promotional boosts remain a fun, controlled addition to regular play.
Bonuses and promotions at Hugo Casino for Canada
Discover the latest bonuses and promotions at Hugo Casino tailored for Canadian players seeking value and variety. The Welcome Package offers multi-deposit incentives combining cash matches and hundreds of free spins, but keep in mind high wagering requirements apply. Most deposit bonuses require a 45x wager on deposit plus bonus while free spin winnings carry similar limits. A strict maximum bet cap of 5 EUR per spin or round applies when wagering bonus funds. Promotions often run for seven days and may exclude certain game providers or live dealer titles. Always check full Bonus Terms, activation steps, and currency equivalents before claiming any offer.
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Understand wagering - most deposit bonuses use 45x on deposit plus bonus and expire in seven days.
Free spin winnings have separate cashout caps - commonly 50 EUR or equivalent per currency.
Cashback rewards are weekly and require minimum weekly deposits and a 30x wagering before withdrawal.
Max bet rules apply - betting above 5 EUR per spin when using bonuses can void winnings.
Activation steps vary - some promotions auto-credit while others need Live Chat or email to activate.
Check excluded games list and provider restrictions to avoid wasted bets that do not count toward wagering.
Promotion
Min deposit
Wagering
Welcome Package
20 EUR
45x deposit+bonus
Sunday Funday
20 EUR
45x bonus
Hugo Cashback
50 EUR weekly
30x cashback
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Mobile gaming and app features at Incognito Casino
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Fast mobile loading and smooth animations even on mid-range devices
Web app shortcut for Android and iPhone add to home screen
Touch-friendly bet controls and clear spin/autoplay options for slots
Responsive lobby that surfaces provider filters and promoted free spins
Secure KYC workflow triggered on withdrawals that protects player funds
Easy access to responsible gaming tools including limits, self-exclusion, tips
Feature
Benefit
Notes
Web app shortcut
Quick access
No native install required
Responsive slots
Smooth gameplay
Optimized for portrait mode
Mobile deposits
Fast payments
EUR default, secure KYC
Choosing Incognito Casino for mobile play gives Swedish users a balanced mix of accessible game choices, promotional incentives and robust verification measures that ensure safe withdrawals. The responsive web app and home screen shortcut reduce friction for frequent players while provider partnerships deliver high quality slot titles that scale well on smaller displays. Remember to check bonus wagering rules, the €5 per round cap when using bonus funds, and to complete KYC steps promptly to avoid withdrawal delays. Play responsibly, use deposit limits if needed, and contact support for any mobile specific questions.
Incognito Casino bonuses and promotions for Netherlands players
Incognito Casino offers a wide selection of bonuses and promotions tailored for players in the Netherlands, combining regular reloads, free spins and seasonal campaigns to keep engagement high. The promotions page highlights weekly reloads, daily free spins for recent depositors and special VIP spins and reloads that reward loyal players with enhanced offers. Newcomers can discover welcome-style incentives and ongoing mystery events that fit local preferences and EUR currency play. For practical access and full terms visit the official site via this link: https://incognitocasino.co.com/ where you can read bonus rules, wagering contributions and caps before opting in. Always check excluded games and max win limits when claiming offers.
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Welcome bonus with deposit match and initial free spins
Weekly reloads available Monday and Friday promotions
Daily 15 free spins if you deposited in last seven days
VIP Spins and Reload for loyal high tier players
Incognito Christmas seasonal events with daily prizes
Secret Missions task based rewards and hidden bonuses
Promotion
Highlights
Welcome Bonus
35x wagering - max win EUR2000
Free Spins
15 daily spins - valid if deposit in last 7 days
Weekly Reload
Reloads on Monday and Friday - opt in required
VIP Offer
Exclusive reloads, extra spins and higher caps
Players in the Netherlands should prioritise reading the full Bonus Terms at Incognito Casino before claiming any promotion to understand wagering multipliers, contribution percentages and maximum withdrawal caps. Keep bets within the EUR5 per round limit when using bonus funds to avoid forfeiture, and remember that bonuses must be used within short validity windows or they will be removed. Avoid game categories that contribute zero to wagering when trying to clear bonuses. If you plan larger deposits or to reach VIP status, check verification and KYC requirements so rewards are not held up by compliance checks or withdrawal restrictions.
Bonuses and promotions at National Casino
National Casino offers a rich calendar of bonuses and promotions tailored for Swedish players, with a focus on slot enthusiasts and active depositors. The platform features a multi stage welcome package, recurring reload offers and thematic prize drops that reward consistent play. Free spins, reload matches and fortune wheel opportunities appear regularly, and highroller options are available for larger deposits. Wagering terms and contribution rates are clearly stated so players can assess the real value of each promotion. Responsible gaming measures and country specific eligibility rules are also highlighted, ensuring promotions remain transparent and compliant with local restrictions and fair.
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Welcome package - staged deposits that unlock free spins and matched funds for slots.
Reload promotions - weekly Friday reloads and Monday free spin drops for active players.
Fortune Wheel - deposit tiers grant Bronze Silver or Gold spins with varying prizes.
Highroller offers - better matching limits and VIP upgrades for large depositors.
Prize Drops and tournaments - monthly cash pools and free spins boost long term value.
Swedish players who explore National Casino promotions should read bonus terms carefully before committing to deposits and heed wagering multipliers and game contribution rules. Verify minimum deposit requirements for free spins and note maximum win caps on no deposit offers. Use VIP progression to convert comp points into meaningful rewards, but watch the specific wagering tied to exchanges. Keep account verification documents ready to avoid delays when cashing out. With transparent rules and regular themed promotions, National Casino can offer both casual slot fun and higher value options for committed players who manage bankroll and play responsibly.
Bonuses and promotions at National Casino for Canadian players
National Casino offers a wide range of bonuses and promotions tailored for Canadian players, combining welcome packages, reload deals and seasonal campaigns to boost bankrolls. This guide explains common bonus types, wagering rules and practical tips to claim offers responsibly. Common perks include match deposit bonuses, free spins on popular slots, cashback events and prize drops tied to monthly tournaments. https://casinonational.co.com/ Players should check minimum deposit thresholds, maximum bet caps and contribution rates for different game categories before accepting promotions. Compare bonuses and always read National Casino terms fully before you accept any bonus.
Wagering conditions at National Casino heavily influence the real value of bonuses for Canadian users. Most deposit bonuses require a x40 wager on deposit plus bonus, while free spin winnings often carry a x40 playthrough as well. Additionally, deposits must be wagered x3 before withdrawal and maximum bet limits of 5 EUR equivalent apply during bonus play. Table games and live casino contributions are typically 0 percent, so focus on slots to meet requirements quickly. Keep an eye on bonus validity periods, activation windows and country exclusions - players from Finland, Japan and Georgia cannot claim deposit-based offers. Responsible bankroll management will help transform promotions into sustainable play.
Read the full bonus terms - wagering multipliers and time limits matter.
Prioritize slot-eligible promotions since slots contribute 100 percent to wagering.
Observe minimum deposit rules - some freebies require a qualifying deposit to cash out.
Watch maximum win caps and maximum bet restrictions when a bonus is active.
Use promo codes and Fortune Wheel spins strategically to extend play.
Track weekly reloads and tournament schedules to maximize monthly prize drops.
Welcome Bonus
First and second deposits - up to €300 plus free spins
Wagering
Typical x40 on deposit+bonus; free spins winnings x40; x3 deposit wagering before withdrawal
Limits
Minimum deposit often €10-20; max bet €5 equiv with active bonus; withdrawals min €10
VIP Perks
Comp points exchange, higher limits and cash rewards for loyal players
Canadian players should balance promotional value against realistic wagering effort and play styles. National Casino promotions can significantly increase session length and fun, but the effective advantage depends on contribution rules, max win ceilings and game exclusions. Always verify geo eligibility and KYC requirements before claiming large offers, since verification can delay withdrawals. Use responsible-gaming tools to set deposit and loss limits, and prioritize offers that match your preferred slots and budget. By combining welcome offers, timed reloads and tournament entries wisely you can get more value from promotions while keeping control over stakes and expectations.
Pinocasino Mobile Gaming - App and Browser Play in Netherlands
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Responsive instant play with no download needed for quick access
Wide provider support including Pragmatic Play, NetEnt, Evolution and more
Touch optimized controls and adaptive layouts for comfortable one handed play
Fast deposit options via Trustly, Skrill, Neteller and card payments
Secure SSL encryption, optional two factor authentication and clear privacy policies
Access promotions, loyalty lounge and cashback features directly from mobile
Compatibility
iOS and Android browsers supported
Games
Slots, live casino and table games
Payments
Trustly, Skrill, Neteller, Visa, MasterCard
Bonuses
Claim welcome offers and cashback on mobile
Netherlands players who prefer gaming on the go will find Pinocasino mobile practical, secure and feature rich. Before wagering, verify your account through KYC prompts and check bonus terms on mobile to avoid misunderstandings about wagering multipliers and maximum cashouts. Use recommended deposit methods for faster payouts and monitor session times with reality check tools to keep play responsible. If you experience any technical issues, clear browser cache, try another browser or contact 24 7 live chat for support. With these tips you can enjoy smooth mobile spins, fast banking and full access to loyalty rewards.
Pinocasino Bonuses and Promotions in the Netherlands
Pinocasino offers an extensive range of bonuses and promotions tailored for Netherlands players, combining welcome packages, daily cashback, mystery cases and loyalty incentives. The promotion structure focuses on clear tiers, fixed wagering rules and transparent timeframes, helping Dutch users compare value and risk. New players typically qualify for multi stage welcome bonuses with deposit https://casinopino.eu.com/ plus free spins and cashback options. Wagering requirements are explicitly stated for each bonus, in particular the common 40x multiplier on deposit related promotions, while cashback bonuses often carry a 15x requirement. Maximum cashout caps and excluded games are listed to avoid surprises, and minimum deposit thresholds of €20 ensure fairness for claimants. Overall, this
For regular players, Pinocasino runs Daily Cashback tiers that reward loss brackets from small to large, with percentages rising as losses increase. The Loyalty Lounge adds a monthly progression model based on Pinopoints, motivating sustained slot play to reach higher levels and unlock reduced wagering at advanced tiers. Mystery Cases and weekly reloads give extra chances to win cash, jackpots or free spins, while VIP levels deliver personalised reload bonuses and potential relaxed withdrawal rules. Careful reading of bonus terms is advised to understand expiry windows, maximum wins and game exclusions, ensuring users from the Netherlands can make informed choices when chasing promotional value. Always monitor contribution rates per game.
Welcome package with deposit match and free spins
Daily cashback tiers up to twenty percent
Mystery Cases using codes COMMON RARE EPIC
Weekly reloads for VIP levels with varying rates
Loyalty Lounge monthly levels with Pinopoints rewards
Bonus terms include wagering max wins and exclusions
Promotion Type
Key Benefit
Wagering
Welcome Bonus
Up to €500 and 150 FS
40x
Daily Cashback
8-20% based on losses
15x
Mystery Cases
Random cash prizes up to €3,000
40x
In the Netherlands, Pinocasino promotions offer a mix of instant bonuses, long term loyalty rewards and risk mitigation tools designed to appeal to both casual slot players and high rollers. Always check the specific wagering multipliers, claim deadlines and excluded games before accepting any offer. Keep betting responsibly, verify promotions via support if unclear, and remember that regulatory safeguards and Pinocasino terms protect your rights. Use bonuses selectively and plan staking to maximise entertainment value while minimising financial exposure over time. Detailed promo rules are available on the site and support can help with eligibility questions or disputes. Enjoy responsibly.
Playfina Bonuses and Promotions - Norway Guide
Playfina offers a rich selection of bonuses and promotions tailored for Norwegian players, combining multistage welcome packages, weekday free spins, and ongoing VIP rewards. The welcome package includes four deposit stages with percentage matches and large free spin bundles on popular BGaming slots. Recurring promotions such as Monday Win Wave and Tuesday Turbo deliver deposit-based free spins, while weekly rakeback and monthly cashback reward steady play. Important terms include a typical wagering multiplier of 40x on bonuses, strict max-bet limits during active bonuses, and minimum deposit thresholds that align with local currency options. This promotional mix aims to balance generous incentives with clear bonus rules and responsible gaming safeguards for Norway-based users.
To claim bonuses, new Norwegian customers should follow straightforward activation steps and carefully read the Bonus Rules. Playfina typically requires promo codes for welcome stages and mandates KYC verification for larger rewards or birthday bonuses. Free spins are often tied to specific BGaming or Netgame titles and distribute across days for larger packages. High roller and VIP offers are personalised via a VIP manager, offering express withdrawals, tailored cashback and bespoke deposit bonuses for elite players. Remember that bonus funds are consumed after real-money bets and that breaching max-bet or wagering rules can void bonuses, so tracking terms is essential.
Activate welcome stages with promo codes FIRST, SECOND, THIRD, FOURTH and follow deadlines.
Expect a common wagering requirement x40 - deposit plus bonus on many offers.
Observe strict max-bet rules - 50 NOK equivalent limit while bonus is active.
Use crypto for faster withdrawals and potentially larger bonus offers where eligible.
Claim weekday free spins on specified BGaming or Netgame titles with min deposits.
Contact VIP manager at vip@playfina.com for bespoke high roller deals and express service.
Promotion
Details
Welcome package
4 stages - up to 300 EUR plus up to 200 free spins; wagering x40
VIP & High Roller
Custom offers up to 50% for deposits 1000 EUR+ - arranged via VIP manager
Norwegian players should prioritise understanding Playfina promotional mechanics before claiming offers to avoid surprises during withdrawals. Read the Bonus Rules, check the accepted currencies and minimum deposit amounts in NOK or EUR, and complete KYC for larger rewards. Keep wagers within the 50 NOK max-bet when bonuses are active and track the 7-day validity windows on many promotions. Use VIP channels if you aim for high roller perks, and consider crypto if you prefer faster processing. Responsible gambling tools are available to set limits and self-exclude if necessary, supporting sustainable play.
Playfina Bonuses and promotions - New Zealand guide
Playfina offers a rich and varied set of bonuses and promotions tailored to players in New Zealand, with a clear focus on welcome packages, weekly rewards and VIP-exclusive deals. New players can expect multi-stage welcome offers that combine deposit matches and free spins spread over the first few deposits, while regulars benefit from weekly rakeback, monthly cashback and rotating free spin campaigns. Wagering rules and max bet limits apply, so KYC verification and minimum deposits are crucial before claiming rewards. This guide explains key promotion types, typical wagering multipliers, activation steps and tips to optimise bonus value while staying compliant with Playfina terms.
Playfina promotions for New Zealand players come with clear activation rules and varying validity periods to help you plan play sessions and manage wagering. Check the offer details carefully and visit the official promotions portal at https://playfinacasino.co.com/ to confirm minimum deposits, promo codes and allowed games. Be aware of x40 wagering multipliers on many offers, the maximum bet cap while a bonus is active, and the need to complete KYC before withdrawals. Tracking weekly free spin campaigns, Tuesday turbo and Monday win wave specials will increase your chances to benefit from recurring rewards. Also monitor excluded providers and lists.
Read full bonus terms - pay attention to wagering and game contributions.
Activate promo codes in 'Bonuses' tab and check activation windows.
Use slots that contribute 100% to wagering for faster turnover.
Keep bets under max bet limit while bonus funds are active.
Complete KYC early - withdrawals may be blocked until verified.
Consider crypto payments for faster withdrawals and larger bonus opportunities.
Offer
Min deposit
Wagering
Welcome 1st Deposit
From 20 EUR
40x (d+b)
Weekly Rakeback Bonus
No minimum
40x bonus
VIP High Roller Exclusive
From 1000 EUR
Up to 50% - custom terms
Whether you are chasing welcome bonuses or weekly free spins in New Zealand, apply measured bankroll management and follow Playfina promotional rules to protect your balance and avoid forfeited winnings. Always check max bet restrictions, bonus expiry and country eligibility before committing funds, and prioritise completing KYC to speed payouts. If terms are unclear or a bonus fails to credit, contact Playfina support via live chat or email for prompt assistance. Responsible gaming tools like deposit limits and self-exclusion are available to help maintain healthy play habits. Bookmark promotions and set notifications to never miss limited offers.
Qbet Bonuses and Promotions in Canada
Qbet offers a wide range of bonuses and promotions tailored for Canadian players, focusing on welcome packages, reload deals, cashback mechanics and seasonal campaigns that reward frequent play. The promotions page outlines clear wagering rules, eligible games and expiry windows to help players plan their sessions and meet requirements. Active promotional funnels include free spins, tiered deposit matches and no wagering cashback options that can enhance bankroll longevity when used wisely. Transparency about excluded games, maximum win caps and bet limits makes it easier to understand real value and avoid surprises during withdrawal requests. For full terms and the latest promotions visit https://qbet.co.com/ and check the Rewards centre regularly.
Canadian players should note the specific wagering rates and currency limits that apply to different offers. Qbet commonly applies 35x wagering to welcome bonuses and 40x to some reload offers, while certain high-value reloads may carry 50x requirements. Cashback promotions for Canadian accounts are especially attractive - daily 5% net loss cashback and 20% rakeback on casino spins with no wagering, subject to activation in the Rewards section and a CA$200 cap. Always review excluded deposit methods and the minimum deposit thresholds for offers, since Skrill or Neteller may not qualify for certain bonuses and minimum deposits generally start at CA$10.
Claim welcome bonuses after verifying your account and choosing CAD currency safely
Activate cashback rewards in the Rewards centre before spinning slots before playing
Check game contribution tables - only slots typically count for wagering carefully
Mind max bet limits while wagering bonus funds to avoid forfeits strictly
Avoid disallowed deposit methods like Skrill and Neteller for certain offers eligibility checks
Track expiry dates - most deposit bonuses expire 30 days after issue set alerts
Bonus
Wagering
CAD Min
Welcome Bonus
35x
CA$10 min
Reload Bonus
40x
Varies
Instant Cashback
No wagering
Up to CA$200
To maximise the value of Qbet promotions in Canada, always read specific campaign terms and track wagering progress in your account. Keep deposits modest while completing bonus requirements and use eligible payment methods to avoid disqualification. If anything seems unclear contact 24/7 live chat for quick clarification and retain screenshots of promotional offers. Remember to balance play with responsible limits and use Qbet’s Deposit and Session controls if needed. Regularly visiting the Promotions and Rewards pages ensures you do not miss limited-time boosts and seasonal deals that can enhance gameplay.
Qbet Payment Methods and Withdrawals in Canada
Finding the right payment options is essential for Canadian players at Qbet. This guide breaks down deposit and withdrawal choices available to residents of Canada, explains minimums and fees, and highlights tips to speed up payouts. Qbet supports fiat and crypto methods to suit different preferences, and offers quick e-wallet and instant crypto processing for many transactions. For detailed access to the casino site use this link https://qbetcasino.co.com/ which points directly to Qbet rewards and banking pages. We also cover verification steps, common processing times, and how to avoid extra charges when requesting multiple withdrawals within a 24-hour window. Read on to learn which methods are fastest for Canadian bank transfers and e-wallets including cashback, welcome offers and eligibility impacts.
Deposits at Qbet in Canada are straightforward - common options include Visa, Mastercard, Interac via bank transfer where available, and popular e-wallets like Neteller and Skrill. Minimum deposits usually start around CA$10 or equivalent, while verification may be triggered after larger cumulative deposits. Withdrawals require identity verification and are processed back to the original payment method whenever possible. Qbet's withdrawal tiers cap daily payouts at roughly €10,000 equivalent, and most Canadian users will experience instant or 1-3 business day processing depending on the method chosen. Be aware that additional withdrawals within 24 hours may incur a 3% fee capped at about €20 or equivalent in CAD. Remember that bonus wagering rules and excluded games affect withdrawal eligibility for promotional funds.
Interac and bank transfer - fast for Canadian accounts
Visa and Mastercard - standard card deposits
E-wallets like Neteller and Skrill - instant and good for withdrawals
Crypto options - wide coin support and instant processing
Minimums and fees - usually CA$10 deposit, withdrawals may have admin fees
Verification requirements - KYC can delay first payout
Method
Typical processing time
E-wallets (Neteller, Skrill)
Instant to 24 hours
Bank Transfer / Interac
1-3 business days
Crypto
Instant to a few hours
Choosing the best payment path at Qbet starts with matching your preferred deposit speed to withdrawal expectations and checking any bonus restrictions. Canadian players should verify their preferred method supports both deposits and payouts to avoid delays, activate KYC early to speed withdrawals, and keep minimums and fee ceilings in mind when planning bankroll movements. If instant access matters, prioritize e-wallets or crypto where supported, but remember that bank transfers may be more suited for larger withdrawals and for meeting regulatory verification processes.
Qbet payment methods and withdrawals - Canada guide
Choosing the right payment method at Qbet is essential for Canadian players who expect fast, secure deposits and withdrawals. Qbet supports a wide range of fiat and crypto options - from Visa and Mastercard to e-wallets like Skrill and Neteller, and popular crypto coins for instant transfers. Understanding minimums, fees and processing times reduces friction and prevents surprises during cashouts. At Qbet we recommend checking limits, activation status and KYC requirements before requesting payouts to avoid delays. This guide explains deposit availability, withdrawal limits, verification checks and practical tips to speed up payouts, helping players in Canada pick the best approach for their preferred currency and playstyle.
Withdrawals at Qbet for Canadian users vary by method - e-wallets and many crypto options are typically the fastest, often instant, while bank transfers and card payouts can take one to three business days. Minimum withdrawal thresholds usually start around 20 units in EUR equivalent and daily maximums follow the platform limits - roughly €10,000 per day, or local equivalent. Note potential administrative fees - the first withdrawal in 24 hours is free, but additional same-day withdrawals incur a 3% charge capped at €20. To avoid unnecessary fees or holds, confirm your verification status, use the same payment method for deposits and withdrawals, and contact 24/7 support when issues arise.
Use e-wallets like Skrill or Neteller for quick withdrawals and low fees.
Consider cryptocurrency for instant processing and higher privacy.
For large cashouts choose bank transfer to meet high withdrawal ceilings.
Avoid multiple withdrawals within 24 hours to prevent 3% administrative fees.
Keep deposit and withdrawal methods matching to streamline KYC and payouts.
Maintain up-to-date ID documents to prevent verification delays when cashing out.
Method
Typical time
Min / Max
E-wallets
Instant
CA$10 / CA$13,000
Bank transfer
1-3 business days
CA$20 / CA$13,000
Crypto
Instant
CA$20 / CA$13,000
Choosing the optimal deposit and withdrawal path on Qbet affects both convenience and net returns for Canadian players. Prioritise verified e-wallets or approved crypto to benefit from instant processing and minimal administration, and reserve bank transfers for large withdrawals to meet higher limits. Keep KYC documents current, avoid repetitive same-day cashouts that trigger fees, and check promotion terms for payment exclusions. When in doubt, reach the 24/7 live chat for personalized guidance on required thresholds, processing expectations and any country-specific considerations to ensure your funds move smoothly and securely. Always verify eligible deposit methods for bonuses before making any deposits.
Reblz Bonuses and Promotions for Sweden
Reblz offers a rich range of bonuses and promotions tailored to Swedish players, combining welcome packages, cashback deals, free spins and regular reload offers to keep gameplay engaging. Its welcome package often includes deposit matches up to specified limits plus free spins, subject to wagering requirements and time limits that are clearly stated in the bonus terms. Visit https://reblz.eu.com/ to check current offers and detailed conditions. Players in Sweden should note the maximum bet limits while bonuses are active, typical wagering multipliers like 25x for deposit plus bonus, and specific excluded games such as live casino or table games that do not contribute to requirements, ensuring efficient use of promotions and avoiding unexpected restrictions.
Reblz also runs recurring promotions like daily free bet credits, weekly cashback and accumulator boosts that appeal to sports bettors as well as casino players. VIP and loyalty perks increase cashback rates up to 15% for higher ranks and may offer exclusive free spins, faster withdrawals, and personalised promotions. Bonus conversion caps exist - for example, welcome rewards often limit cashable conversions to five times the bonus amount - and most freebies expire quickly, so active Swedish participants should monitor the Promotions page and confirm eligibility criteria before claiming any offer. Check wagering multipliers, minimum deposit thresholds, and max bet rules to avoid forfeiting bonus funds or encountering delays.
Understand wagering requirements before claiming any bonus to avoid surprises
Meet minimum deposit of €20 to qualify for welcome offers
Observe €5 max bet rules while a bonus is active on slots
Use cashback at Bonus Games for 1x wagering and faster conversion
Track free spin expiry within seven days so winnings remain claimable
Contact 24/7 support for promotion queries, KYC or bonus disputes
Promotion
Wager
Validity
Welcome 100% up to €250
25x deposit+bonus
72 hours to claim
Weekly Cashback 5%
1x cashback
Weekly, max €5,000
Free Spins up to 777
0x no wagering
Valid seven days
By understanding Reblz bonus mechanics, Swedish players can make informed choices and stretch their bankroll sensibly. Read Bonus Terms carefully for wagering multipliers, game exclusions and conversion caps before using any promotion. Remember the minimum deposit and max bet rules to protect winnings and avoid bonus voiding. Use loyalty features to increase cashback rates over time and always consult the support team if you encounter any disputes or unclear terms. Responsible use of promotions ensures longer term enjoyment and safer play on the Reblz platform today.
Reblz Bonuses and Promotions for Players in Sweden
Reblz offers a wide range of bonuses and promotions tailored to Swedish players, combining welcome packages, cashback deals, and regular reload offers to boost bankrolls and extend playtime. Understanding terms and wagering requirements is essential before claiming any offer, because some bonuses require 25x deposit plus bonus wagering while sportsbook promotions may use a 16x bonus multiplier. Players in Sweden benefit from EUR currency options, clear expiry windows and daily or weekly mechanics, visit https://reblz.co.com/ with minimum deposits usually set at €20. Always check excluded games, maximum conversion limits and maximum bet rules while using a bonus to avoid forfeiting winnings or triggering processing fees.
Promotions at Reblz commonly include time limited free spins, deposit match bonuses and accumulator boosts designed for sports bettors. Wagering contribution varies by game type and excluded categories usually include live casino and table games, so slot players gain the most from spins or deposit rewards. Check max bet limits of €5 when a bonus is active and be mindful of conversion caps such as 5x for welcome packages or 10x for other reloads. Cashback offers give a low wagering obligation of 1x on Bonus Games, and VIP Loyalty tiers increase cashback rates up to 15 percent for top ranks, which is useful for frequent Swedish players seeking steady value.
Welcome bonus up to €777 plus free spins and cashback - terms apply.
100% first deposit match up to €250 for casino players - new customers only.
Daily free bet reward - 10% up to €40 per day.
Weekly cashback up to €5,000 with 1x wagering on Bonus Games.
Accumulator bonus boosting winnings up to 100 percent on multi bets.
No deposit registration reward with withdrawal cap up to €100.
Promotion
Wagering
Min deposit
Welcome package
25x deposit+bonus
€20
100% 1st deposit
25x deposit+bonus
€20
Sports welcome
16x bonus
€20
Cashback weekly
1x bonus
No min
When evaluating Reblz promotions in Sweden, pay close attention to time limits, game weightings and maximum win caps to ensure smooth withdrawals and compliance with bonus rules. Always verify KYC thresholds and deposit wagering rules that can trigger processing fees if neglected. Combining regular reload offers with VIP Cashback can produce steady value for frequent players, while no deposit rewards and free spins offer low risk testing opportunities. Stay informed via the site promotions page and contact 24/7 support if terms are unclear or you need help claiming a specific offer.
Reblz Bonuses and Promotions for Norway
Reblz offers a wide range of bonuses and promotions tailored for Norwegian players, combining welcome packages, free spins, cashback and sportsbook boosts. New customers can benefit from multi-stage welcome packages, often requiring a minimum deposit of €20 or 200 NOK and subject to wagering requirements typically set at 25x deposit plus bonus. Seasonal campaigns and daily free bet structures add ongoing value for returning players. For details and current offers visit the https://Reblzcasino.eu.com/ and check the Campaigns page where terms are clearly displayed. To access the full promotions and verify eligibility, Norwegian customers should review local restrictions and wagering rules before claiming any bonus.
Understanding wagering rules and time limits is essential before activating any Reblz promotion. Casino welcome bonuses usually carry a 25x wagering requirement on deposit plus bonus, with a maximum bet of €5 per spin while the bonus is active. Free spins are commonly valid for seven days and winnings from free spins can be capped at €5,000. Cashback is often awarded weekly with a 1x wagering requirement and higher rates available via the Loyalty Program. Norwegian players should also note KYC verification thresholds at €2,000 in deposits and withdrawal limits of €5,000 per 24 hours - check terms for regional specifics.
Welcome package - multi-deposit offers up to €777 plus free spins and 15% cashback.
First deposit match - common 100% up to €250, minimum €20, 25x wagering.
Daily and weekly promos - free bets, reloads and leaderboard competitions for Norway.
Cashback tiers - basic 5% with enhanced rates for Silver, Gold, Platinum and Diamond.
Free spin prizes - usually 7 days validity and capped withdrawals up to €5,000.
No-deposit promotions - occasional registration rewards with max withdrawable amounts and small wagering.
Promotion
Key Terms
Typical Value
Welcome package
25x wagering on deposit+bonus - min €20
Up to €777 + 777 spins
Free spins
7 days validity - winnings capped at €5,000
Varies by promo
Cashback
Weekly - 1x wagering - tiers up to 15%
Up to €5,000/wk cap
When using promotions at Reblz players in Norway should prioritise reading full bonus terms, tracking time limits and meeting wagering rules to avoid unexpected fees or voided winnings. Verify your account early to speed up withdrawals and check deposit and conversion limits that may apply. If any clause is unclear contact 24/7 live chat or email support to confirm eligibility and restrictions before wagering. Smart bonus management - small stakes, focus on contributing games and timely fulfilment of requirements - can improve enjoyment and increase the chance of converting bonus funds into withdrawable cash.
Richmoose bonuses and promotions guide for UK players
Richmoose offers a varied promotions suite tailored for UK players, combining casino welcome packages, recurring deposit rewards, no-deposit offers and periodic free spins campaigns. New player casino bonuses typically carry a 25x wagering requirement on deposit plus bonus, require a minimum deposit of €20 and limit maximum bet to €5 while wagering requirements are active. Some payment methods including Neteller, Skrill and Paysafe Card are excluded from casino deposit bonus eligibility. Time limits are strict - most casino promotions must be used within 72 hours and once claimed you usually have 48 hours to complete wagering. Free spin winnings are often uncapped by wagering but capped at €5,000 for withdrawals. Visit https://richmoose.eu.com/ for full promotional terms.
To maximise value from promotions read promotion-specific rules carefully and check wagering bases - most casino bonuses apply wagering to deposit plus bonus. Avoid depositing with excluded e-wallets if you want a casino bonus, and remember the maximum withdrawal caps on free spin and no-deposit rewards. Cashback offers are attractive - base rate is 5% for eligible players, with Loyalty Program members receiving 10% at Silver and Gold and 15% at Platinum and Diamond. Keep bets under the €5 per spin cap while a bonus is active and be aware that withdrawing deposited funds before wagering completion will forfeit any active bonus and related winnings.
Check promotional T&Cs for wagering multiplier, expiry and eligible games.
Use payment methods eligible for bonuses - avoid Neteller, Skrill, Paysafe.
Verify phone and enable marketing to qualify for most offers.
Observe max bet €5 during bonus wagering and expiration windows.
Track wagering progress because uncompleted wagers lead to forfeiture.
Consider cashback and loyalty tiers as long-term value boosters.
Bonus type
Key terms
Typical cap
Welcome Bonus
25x wagering on deposit plus bonus
Min deposit €20; max bet €5
Free Spins
Usually 0x on winnings; valid 7 days
Withdrawals capped at €5,000
Cashback
Base 5% - 1x wagering to convert
Max €5,000 per week
Understand that promotional offers at Richmoose change frequently and are governed by promotion-specific terms that can affect eligibility, wagering and withdrawal limits, so always read the small print before opting in. If you are unsure about a bonus condition or need clarification on eligible payment methods, contact customer support via 24/7 live chat or email for prompt help. Remember responsible gambling tools are available including deposit limits, session limits and self-exclusion to keep play safe. Keeping records of claimed promotions and their expiry dates helps prevent forfeiture and improves your long-term results with loyalty rewards.
Richmoose mobile gaming - App features and optimization
Richmoose prioritizes a smooth mobile gaming experience for Canadian players, focusing on browser optimization, fast load times, and intuitive navigation across smartphones and tablets. The site uses responsive design that adapts game lobbies, cashier screens, and support widgets to smaller displays without losing functionality. Users can access the full games library, claim promotions, and manage accounts on the go. Although Richmoose does not currently offer a native app, its mobile-optimized platform delivers touchscreen-friendly controls, simplified menus, and quick deposits through popular methods like Apple Pay, Visa and Revolut. Attention to security, encrypted connections, and 24/7 live chat support ensures mobile play remains secure and player-focused.
https://richmoose.co.com/ Mobile players benefit from instant deposits, a streamlined cashier, and a catalogue of touchscreen-optimized slots and live tables delivered by top providers. The mobile experience emphasizes speed and convenience most deposit methods are instant so Canadians can start playing without delay. Richmoose supports Apple Pay, Visa, Mastercard and Revolut for quick funding while withdrawals follow secure protocols and are returned to original methods where possible. The site includes sensible play settings for limits, reality checks and self-exclusion accessible from mobile, plus KYC and encryption safeguards. Regular updates, promotional alerts, and 24/7 live chat ensure players have responsive support and clear information on promotions and wagering rules.
Optimized game lobby with large thumbnails and quick filters for mobile searches.
One-touch deposits using Apple Pay, Visa, Mastercard and Revolut for instant funding.
Mobile-friendly live chat and email support available 24/7 for immediate assistance anytime.
Responsible gaming controls including deposit limits, session timers and self-exclusion options easily.
Encrypted connections and GDPR-aligned privacy safeguards protect player data on mobile devices.
Clear bonus information and wagering rules displayed prominently in mobile promotions area.
Feature
Mobile benefit
Fast deposits
Instant play with Apple Pay, Visa and Revolut on mobile
Responsive lobby
Adaptive layout, quick filters, and touch controls for slots
Support and security
24/7 live chat, KYC safeguards, encrypted connections and GDPR compliance
Whether you play quick sessions on the commute or longer evenings at home, Richmoose delivers a reliable mobile experience tailored to Canadian players. Take advantage of instant deposit options, enable sensible play limits, and verify your account early to speed up withdrawals. Keep free spins and bonus terms in mind - wagering windows and max bet limits apply - and contact 24/7 live chat for any questions. With encryption, GDPR-aligned privacy, and clear promotional rules, players can enjoy mobile gaming with confidence while staying in control of time and spending.
Slottio Bonuses and Promotions
Slottio offers an extensive range of bonuses designed for slot enthusiasts in the Netherlands and beyond. The promotional calendar is rich with welcome packages, reload deals, weekly slot boosts and occasional prize tournaments that reward frequent play. Wagering rules, game restrictions and maximum win caps are clearly stated in the terms, so players can evaluate value before opting in. Slottio typically applies slot-weighted contribution rules where spins count fully toward wagering while table games and live casino titles are excluded. Maximum bet limits when bonuses are active and the one month expiry for most offers are essential details to remember before chasing promotional value or stacking multiple incentives. Always read the small print and contact support for clarification if needed.
To claim promotions effectively https://slottio.eu.com/ players should verify eligibility, understand wagering and opt in where required. The Slottio welcome bundle can be generous but often includes game exclusions and a maximum withdrawal multiplier that limits net cashout. Regular weekly packages vary in bet multipliers and caps, so tracking active promotions within your account area helps. VIP cashback and periodic live dealer bonuses are advertised for select customers, but note that some offers need manual activation and may be restricted in certain jurisdictions. Always check the promotion validity dates and maximum bet rules before wagering. For players in the Netherlands, confirm local eligibility and taxation considerations, and reach out to Slottio support if anything appears unclear, so you avoid unexpected penalties.
Welcome package - large percentage match for slot deposits
Weekly slots reloads - tiered bonuses across Monday, Friday, Sunday
Weekly live package - dedicated offers for live dealer players
VIP cashback - recurring rebate for high value customers
Limited time tournaments - prize pools and leaderboard rewards
General terms - 10x or 35x wagering and exclusions apply
Offer
Wager
Max win
Slots Welcome package
10x
10x bonus cap
Weekly Slots
35x
€1,500 cap
Weekly Live
350x
€1,750 cap
Understanding Slottio bonus mechanics empowers smarter play and reduces surprises when withdrawing winnings. Always check contribution tables, maximum bet rules and excluded games before activating an offer. If you plan to use multiple promotions, calculate realistic wagering timelines and avoid exceeding the €2 maximum stake when any bonus is active. Keep KYC and withdrawal thresholds in mind because verification may be required before funds are released. For detailed queries reach out to Slottio support via live chat or email so you receive prompt assistance and clear explanations tailored to your account status. Set deposit limits to protect your play safely.
Slottio bonuses and promotions
Slottio offers an extensive range of bonuses and promotions tailored for players in the United Kingdom and beyond. Newcomers can claim generous welcome packages focused on slot play while regular players benefit from recurring weekly reloads, live packages and VIP cashback options. Terms are clear about wagering, game contributions and maximum wins so careful reading is essential before activating any offer. For convenience players can access promotion details, activation steps and exclusions directly on the promotions page via the operator website https://slottio.co.com/ where full terms and evidence are published to help players make informed choices. Customer support can clarify promotion rules if needed.
Understanding the wagering requirements and eligible games is crucial for maximising value from Slottio promotions. Most slot welcome and reload bonuses contribute fully to wagering while table games, live casino titles and certain branded slots are excluded or contribute zero percent. Bonus activation usually requires opt-in and may impose a maximum bet limit of 2 EUR when a bonus is active. Non deposit offers and free spins often carry lower withdrawal caps and stricter conditions. Additionally VIP cashback perks are reserved for loyal customers and subject to separate terms. Knowing contribution rates by game helps plan efficient wagering strategies today.
Read full bonus terms and wagering contributions before claiming offers.
Check eligible games list - slots usually count most.
Activate offers manually when opt-in is required to secure bonuses.
Monitor maximum bet limits and avoid bets exceeding two EUR.
Track validity periods and use bonuses before they expire.
Contact Slottio support for clarifications or disputed promotion outcomes.
Promotion
Wagering
Eligible games
Slots Welcome 450% up to €3,000
Wager 10x deposit+bonus
Eligible: slots only, exclusions apply
Weekly Slots Package 450% up to €1,500
Wager 35x deposit+bonus
Slots only - check excluded titles
Weekly Live Package 200% up to €1,750
Wager 350x deposit+bonus
Live casino only - strict wagering rules
Maximising promotional value at Slottio requires active research, disciplined bankroll management and attention to small but critical terms. Focus on offers that match your preferred games and calculate realistic wagering paths before depositing. Remember that excluded games and maximum bet rules can void bonus winnings if ignored. If in doubt use live chat or email to request clarification and retain screenshots of activation steps. Responsible play tools are available to limit exposure and should be used when pursuing bonus offers so that rewards remain fun and sustainable.
Slottio mobile gaming and app features for Sweden
Slottio offers a streamlined mobile experience that brings popular slots and live games to Swedish players through responsive web design and browser-based play. The platform prioritizes fast loading times, intuitive navigation, and touch-friendly controls so sessions feel native on smartphones and tablets. For players in Sweden who value security and convenience, Slottio supports common payment options and two factor authentication where available https://slottiocasino.co.com/ to protect accounts. Mobile optimization extends to search, game filters, and account settings which make depositing, wagering and tracking responsible gaming tools quick and straightforward. Many modern game providers featured on the site deliver adaptive layouts and high quality graphics for on the go entertainment.
Designers focused on compatibility with iOS and Android browsers so players in Sweden can enjoy games without downloading native apps. Slottio does not currently offer dedicated iOS or Android applications, but its responsive platform mimics app behavior and supports quick deposits, session restoration and push like notifications through browser permissions when available. Performance is optimized for 4G and Wi Fi networks and adaptive bitrate streaming improves live dealer tables on slower connections. Players benefit from visible bankroll tracking, in game session timers and easy access to responsible gaming settings such as deposit limits and self exclusion. Regular updates to the mobile lobby introduce new filters and curated game lists for faster discovery.
Fast responsive lobby and smart filters for quick game discovery
Touch optimized slot and table controls that improve mobile play
Streamlined deposit and withdrawal flow with common Swedish options
Live dealer streaming optimized for mobile and adaptive bitrate support
Built in responsible gaming shortcuts including deposit limits and timers
Session restore and account security tools plus optional two factor checks
No download browser play for instant access and lower battery impact
Feature
Benefit
Responsive lobby
Faster game discovery and smoother navigation
Touch controls
Better mobile ergonomics and easier betting on the go
No app required
Instant play in browser with lower storage and faster updates
For Swedish players who care about convenience, the Slottio mobile experience balances performance, safety and usability. The responsive design reduces friction when switching devices, and clear access to responsible gaming tools helps players manage play sessions. Payment options and quick deposit flows are tuned for mobile, while adaptive streaming improves live table play even on variable networks. Although a native app is not offered, the browser based platform is continually updated so frequent visitors in Sweden can expect improved filters, curated lists, and enhanced security features to support a reliable on the go casino experience.
Snatch Casino bonuses and promotions - UK guide
Snatch Casino offers a diverse range of bonuses and promotions tailored for players in the United Kingdom, combining a generous Welcome Bonus Pack, VIP packages and regular reload incentives. New players can access multi-stage welcome rewards that include deposit matches, hundreds of free spins and SND credits, all governed by clear wagering terms. Daily and weekly cashback options reduce losses while tournaments, jackpots and streamer tip bonuses add competitive excitement. Visit the official site to view current deals and terms: https://snatchcasino.eu.com/ This overview focuses on key conditions such as wagering multipliers, eligible games and claim windows to help UK players maximise value.
Understanding wagering and game eligibility is essential when claiming any promotion at Snatch Casino. Standard bonus rules often require 3x wagering for general bonuses, while the Welcome Bonus Pack and VIP packs have higher multipliers such as 60x and 30x respectively on deposit plus bonus amounts. Free spins winnings usually carry separate playthroughs up to x40 with cashout caps. SND bonus funds are stored in a dedicated SND Bonus Account and count only on Snatch slots for wagering progress. Cashback rewards must be claimed within specific windows and may carry a 3x playthrough. Always check minimum deposit thresholds, expiry periods and excluded game lists before staking bonus funds.
Check minimum deposit and specific bonus eligibility before activating any offer.
Note wagering multipliers and game contribution rates - slots usually 100% and mobile promotions.
Claim cashback within the required time window to prevent automatic expiry.
Understand SND rules - SND funds wager only on Snatch slots for playthrough.
Complete KYC early to avoid withdrawal delays when cashing out bonus winnings.
Promotion
Key terms
Wager
Welcome Pack
Multi-deposit matches plus free spins
60x deposit+bonus
No Deposit Bonus
100 free spins and 10 SND on registration
30x bonus
Cashback
10% daily and 10% weekly cashback claims
3x cashback wagering
Smart management of promotions at Snatch Casino boosts enjoyment and reduces dispute risk. UK players should verify KYC requirements before requesting withdrawals, respect minimum deposit and wagering rules, and monitor expiry windows to avoid forfeiting rewards. Use cashback and free spin conditions strategically on eligible slots to meet playthroughs efficiently, and consider VIP packs only if you can meet higher minimum deposits and x30 wagering terms. If any point is unclear contact 24/7 support via live chat or email to confirm specific offer mechanics and preserve account security while using bonus funds responsibly.
Bonuses and promotions at Snatch Casino - Canada
Snatch Casino promotes a wide range of bonuses and regular promotions designed to reward Canadian players and international visitors alike. The promotions page lists welcome packs, daily and weekly cashback offers, free spins, highroller VIP incentives and special tournament prizes. Each promotion includes specific wagering conditions, validity windows and eligible games specified in the bonus terms. To make the most of offers you should review wagering multipliers, game contribution percentages and maximum cashout limits before claiming. Responsible gaming features are available and the support team can clarify bonus rules or resolve disputes. Always read the full terms to avoid unexpected restrictions or forfeitures. Check claim procedures and withdrawal prerequisites carefully.
Snatch Casino offers a tiered Welcome Bonus Pack covering four deposits with varied match rates and free spin allotments. The first deposit credit can include substantial match percentages and up to 100 free spins, while subsequent deposits unlock additional bonuses and spins under specified minimum deposits. Be aware that SND bonus balances have distinct wagering rules and may be restricted to slots contribution only. Cashback programs provide daily and weekly relief on net losses but require claiming within set windows. Highroller VIP packs and periodic jackpots reward heavy players, while referral incentives deliver free spins and commission benefits for inviting active friends.
Claim welcome bonus within 24 hours and meet minimum deposit requirements.
Use slots for SND wagering because other games contribute zero percent.
Remember free spins winnings often carry separate wagering and cashout caps.
Claim daily cashback within timeframe and complete the x3 playthrough requirement.
Check VIP offers for higher limits, faster support and larger bonuses.
Avoid bonus abuse, follow rules to prevent forfeiture or account sanctions.
Promotion
Key Terms
Typical Wager
Welcome Pack
60x deposit+bonus
Slots 100%
Daily Cashback
Claim within 24 hours
3x playthrough
No Deposit Bonus
30x bonus max 100 SND
Slots only
Promotional terms at Snatch Casino are generous but complex, so prospective Canadian players should approach offers informed and cautious. Verify eligibility, minimum deposits and the precise wagering multipliers for SND and fiat bonuses before accepting any credit. Keep track of claim windows for daily and weekly cashback and understand how free spins winnings are capped. When in doubt, contact support or consult the detailed bonus policy to avoid surprises. With careful attention to the rules, promotions can add value while preserving responsible play and protecting your bankroll for longer sessions.
SpinBetter mobile gaming and app features for Canada
SpinBetter delivers a robust mobile gaming experience tailored for Canadian players, combining a native Android APK, iOS support and a progressive web app for responsive play on any device. The mobile interface is optimized for touch controls, fast load times and secure SSL connections so games and bets run smoothly on cellular and Wi-Fi networks. Players benefit from quick deposits, one‑tap navigation, and an app layout that highlights live casino, slots and sportsbook markets with clear filters. Regular app updates add new providers and stability fixes while preserving bonus eligibility and account security. For direct access and downloads, visit https://spinbetter.co.com/ and follow the mobile installation guide to enable PWA or APK setup on Canadian devices.
SpinBetter mobile apps integrate popular payment rails - card payments, e-wallets and crypto wallets - allowing Canadian users to deposit and withdraw within the app quickly. Note that some promotions are disabled for cryptocurrency accounts, so review bonus terms before funding. Security features include SSL encryption, encrypted data storage and optional device verification to protect personal data. The app also includes responsible gaming tools - set deposit limits, cooling-off periods and self-exclusion directly in Account Settings. Push notifications keep players informed about live odds changes, new slot drops and time-limited reloads while VIP features and cashback tiers are accessible from the app dashboard for active users.
Native Android APK - direct install for stable performance and faster updates.
iOS TestFlight support - early access builds and seamless iPhone compatibility.
Progressive Web App - installable PWA for iOS and Android browsers and shortcuts.
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Value
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Welcome Package
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Offer
Key terms
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Casino welcome
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Wagering
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109 Comments
Elena
Thank you for sharing this! I feel the same way. We as moms need to lift each other up instead of shaming. We all are doing the best we can to provide for our families. We need to embrace this and learn from another.
Shawna Whaley
Love this so much! Being a mom is hard, some days it’s harder than others and some days it’s easier, but it’s still hard. All we can do is do the best we can, be there for our children and be there for each other. No one is perfect and no one parenting method is better than the next, not really.
I couldn’t produce enough milk either time and had to substitute with formula. When my oldest stopped wanting to nurse at 6 months, I cried because I felt like I wasn’t doing enough for her. I was wrong, I did everything I could. There’s too much judgement going on today and not enough compassion and kindness. I love you, Gen! Thank you for this. ?❤
Chrissy boadle
Gen. Omg you hit the nail on the head. Im a mum with a child that never got invited to a birthday party. Who had no friends and i am not exaggerating. She started cutting herself in grade 4. There were days when i was so defeated and no one said hey what can we do to help you let alone how can we help her. She was judged as being naughty and i was judged by nearly every mother.. lucky for my girl i was able to rise above it but she couldnt. Her life has been irrevocably altered by judgement and shaming. As it turns out she suffers from bi polar which was only escalated by all those around her. So we chose to love ourselves and each other. I have nearly lost her twice but she is 22. Not on drugs. Not pregnant. Living independently and more importantly alive. I often wonder how different it would of been if we were accepted and supported more in the early days… thanks for speaking out about how much a kind word is more appropriate and needed in EVERY INSTANCE
gail
Well said, and a long time coming. I’ve been wondering how long it would take you to lay it all on the line and tell people to STOP already with the ridiclous and sometimes nasty comments. You expressed yourself well in this article, and I believe you spoke for thousands of mothers who are sick of people spewing their opinions where it isn’t wanted or needed. BRAVO!
Becky
I’ve been a mom for 17 years now, and I’ve seen so much and had a lot go on that folks felt they needed to comment on. It used to bother me A LOT. What was I doing so wrong that everyone had to point out my wrongness? Was I messing up my little boy? After a while I learned to tune out the nitpickers in my life. My son is a healthy, happy young man that I’m super proud of, and at the end of the day that’s the main thing.???
Mary Bryant
Well put….
I practice not giving my input if not asked and always be kind/ encouraging.
Being judgemental is also a mechanism of control.
Many need to relax and give themselves permission to just live and let live instead of this rigid, controlling perspective. They inflict it on themselves and then by extension, others.
Alice
You tell them Gen! Your kids seem happy and healthy so people should just stop with the judgement. I can’t imagine how hard it is a Mum as it’s exhausting enough being Aunty for a few hours. Kudos to those who dedicate their lives to a really tough and underrated job xxx
Sue
I had such a hugely positive experience online as a writer and in fandom that when I got pregnant in 2008, I immediately joined the Pregnant community on my favorite blog site. I have never seen such shaming to the point of bullying conducted by adult women before, and I grew up in the Pentecostal church!
First, at 38 I was told I was too old: “You’re only two years younger than my mom!” When I explained that we had 15 years of infertility “You shouldn’t force your body to get pregnant with fertility drugs, if it didn’t happen naturally, that was your body telling you it wasn’t supposed to.” When I explained that I DID get pregnant naturally, it just happened at 38 instead of 28, and that I was happy to be pregnant in my 30s because I had time to grow up and be young and silly, go to college and have time alone with my husband, I was then judging THEM. They told moms who had severe latch issues and babies who were too sick to nurse and even a mom who had had a double matectomy that there was NO excuse for not breastfeeding. The mom with no breasts? She should try breastfeeding from the ducts in her armpits. I didn’t stay with that community long.
My son will be 10 in August. I have overall been lucky in lack of mom-shaming in real life despite only nursing for 3 months, putting him in his crib at 6 months, using disposable diapers, vaccinating him, even sending him to private school. I did baby wear, take 5 years off of work, make his baby food, and I didn’t circumcise him, so maybe I hit a happy shame medium? I also had few mom’s in my peer group with newborns by the time I got pregnant. I’m also not an actress with a lifestyle blog who has non-parents and parents alike eager to comment on my children, my marriage, my career choices, and my body just because they watch a TV show my husband and I were on. You’re a stronger woman than I, Genevieve Padalecki!
Oh, and I totally take Jonah, age 9, for a pedicure with me once a month and he gets to pick a color. He usually picks pink. 🙂
Toniann
I’m not one to comment but this is definitely one of the best things I’ve read in a really long time. I had my first son at 23 and my second at 25. Because I was young people constantly felt the need to tell me what to do, and how to do it. And if I did it “wrong” they made sure to let me know. It was so frustrating! I am now 31, and while the comments and criticism from family and friends have stopped as far as what to feed my kids, when they need to go to bed, how much tv they can watch or when they can use their iPads, some new criticism is rolling in. My five year old loves when I paint his nails. Recently he’s asked for me to put eyeshadow on him, which I do. I am teaching my kids that gender norms don’t exist. Makeup and nail polish isn’t just for girls. I am teaching my boys to be open and accepting. A lot of my family and friends, even strangers on social media have something negative to say when I share photos of my son wearing makeup or nail polish. I know I’m doing the right thing in how I’m raising my kids, I am doing my absolute best. And as long as my kids are happy and healthy and grow up knowing they are loved, that’s all that matters. Anyways thank you for writing something that truly spoke to me. You’re doing a great job as a mom and don’t let anyone tell you different! Keep it up!!
Suzanne Lopez-Calleja
Gen, this is the best article on your blog (so far). As someone who couldn’t breast feed my oldest, I received so much unnecessary hurtful criticism, although I did tell those people where to stick it 😉
Celia
Considering the size of their father, I would’ve been surprised if you didn’t have a large bump (because you’re petite on top of it all!). Ignore the haters and trolls, just do what’s best for your kids.
Nadia
Hi Gen,
i agree on everything you wrote. My second child (my daughter) startet crying when she was three weeks old. She’d cry straight through 16 hours a day, leaving my son and me (and my husband as well) exhausted, frustrated and (i’m still ashamed to admit it) aggressive as time went by. This went on for eight months. There was no way to breast feed her, she wouldn’t even drink from the bottle and she never put on enough weight. All the “advice“ i received during this time made me feel like i was deliberately trying to “kill“ our daughter…
Thank you for speaking up for all of us. You’re doing a great job. As a mother, a wife and as a woman.
XOXO,
Nadia
Sabrina Travers
I really enjoyed this post as it rings SO true. I’m a mom of two young children and have definitely been judged since becoming a mom. It’s a hard thing being a parent since no one knows what they’re doing and to be put down about it is Ludacris. I’ve found a very small tribe of my own that I stick with that are very supportive and uplifting. Being a mom is the hardest job I’ve ever had but I wouldn’t change it for the world, I love my babies to no end.
Alesia
Wonderful words Gen. And your exactly right. As mothers we should stick together, and I think you’ve done a fantastic job with your children. I couldn’t breastfeed any of my children. My first because I was still in high school and I wasn’t home often enough to do it . My second because she would not take the breast, and my youngest because I had a full-time job. But they all turned out great. I buried my oldest daughter in 2011 it was the most difficult thing I’ve had to do in my life and I felt very inadequate at the mother. My children turned out to be wonderful adults okay. So you keep going, you keep loving your babies, and your husband, and know that I have your back. You are enough, and thank you for voicing words that help us all see how kindness can go a long way.♡♡♡♡♡
Alesia
Gen you are a wonderful person and a fantastic mother. You are more than enough. You can tell how much you love your babies, and your husband. Showing kindness is what’s important. Bottle-fed or breastfed children, will become adults, and live by the example their parents set. So you have nothing to worry about your children will be wonderful, kind, smart, supportive, and compassionate adults. you are ENOUGH. WE ARE ALL ENOUGH. ♡♡♡♡♡ keep being you, and keep setting the example for other mothers and women. You are an inspiration.
kendra laytart
I love this!! Moms often don’t see that what they’re going through is okay. I don’t judge mom’s because I don’t know them, their kid/kids, and their life situation. It NOT my job to judge people, its my job yo make sure they know that they’re loved and appreciated. That doesn’t just go for moms, it goes for everyone
Donna Otte
I understand what you’re going through. I’ve been there myself when I was raising my son as a single mother. I also went through it yet again when I became a grandmother. It’s hard to not feel bad when you get some advice that you know is just a disguise for criticism. I get satisfaction out of seeing a fine young man that my son turned out to be and that validates I was doing the right thing. Hang in there, much love and respect, Donna.
MARY AZCON
This is pretty awesome and I loved it. I have never talked bad about a mom because well… they can raise their kids they way the want to. Those women are doing their best to make people that will walk the earth. I’m just a teenager but I know what kind of mother I want to be and I will do my best and always try to speak up for me and those mothers out there. Because I also have a mother too and I know that is hard and that she’s doing her job the best she can so I can be a good human and to be part of the society around me.
Jeanette Brown
Gen YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY ENOUGH! This article was wonderful. You are wonderful. Your children are happy and healthy, and you (and your husband) are the only one who should decide whether you breast feed, cosleep, keep a schedule, paint nails, anything. . . I have always been impressed with the stuff you have shared with us. I think, from what I can see, that you guys are doing a great job- however you are raising them. Keep doing what you are doing, and ignore the naysayers.
Milica
I am not a mom but I did enjoy reading this and I wanted to thank you for saying all of this. You are truely a grat role model. I do judge people enen though I try not too but I at least keep it for my self and don’t say it to tem online or in person because you never know what someone is going true. Once again thank you for writing this sending my love to you and your family from Serbia <3
Kadra
Yes!!! I just recently became a mother on April 23. I breastfeed my son but I also supplement with formula because I’ve had trouble with milk supply. Some people say “Breast is best” but I think fed is best. When it all boils down, you have to do what is best for your child and not someone else’s child. That’s the biggest lesson I’ve learned so far in motherhood. ( Even though there’s more lessons to be learned down the road) Thank you for posting! ❤️
Nicole
Hey Gen,
I have been here so many times. I am so sorry you were judged. I love how you raise your kids and how you are so honest
Hannah Campbell
Thank you so much for sharing this <3
I am about to become a new mum (any day now!!) and this just spoke to me. I have no idea how I’m going to go, but I know I’ll give it my best and my all .. and that that’s enough.
Again, thank you for sharing. You’re seriously an incredible woman and mother.
nik
i’m not a mom, nor do i plan to be, but the second i read ‘… or want to lose it on the mom who can’t get her kid to stop crying on a cross-country flight,’ i pictured myself on a flight with an upset child and my brain automatically supplied me asking the mom if she’d mind me trying to help the child calm down, even if i’m just the distraction by making weird faces or something (people need to be more understanding and more willing to help others, ugh!). society is far too hard on mothers… everyone has an opinion and at the end of the day, *you* are the only one who knows your child’s wants and needs and none of that should ever be shamed. xoxo
Hailey Owens
Thank you so much for sharing this. We have to lift each other up and encourage one another. No one is a true parenting “expert”. Gen, your children are beautiful and happy because of you and Jared. You are doing an amazing job!!! Thank you so much for everything that you do.
Stephanie
I love this post! Lately I’ve had family make backhanded comments about how I raise my son. This shaming is not necessary and I constantly need to remind myself to not take it personally. I commend you for posting what many moms feel.
Pamela
Great post, and I firmly agree that we have to get to a point of acceptance for all people then pass that on to parents. I’m not able to have children and that was always a huge thing for me, as I was always the maternal one. But I’ve always respected any parenting decisions, regardless. I figure if this being game from your body, unless you are directly putting them in harm, you have your reasons for the way you are raising them. Some could be from research on certain styles, some could be familial traditions. Either way, the child came from you. You know what is right and no one should tell you different. Personally, you kick butt, Gen!
tessa
thank you! xoxo
Mickie
I’m 47. My daughters are 18 and 22. I still get judged. I used to hear, “you have raised them so well. You have good girls. You must be proud of them.” My husband got killed when they were 5 y/o and 11 m/o. I didn’t remarry. (Both his parents are gone also.) Now? People think my daughters are making wrong choices. I guess. They don’t say it to me, but it gets back to my parents. It hurts them. Then they put the pressure on me to do something to my grown daughters to “make” them do right. If they need me I’m here. If not, it’s time for me. Me time at Me con. ?
Lynn
I have also been mom shamed. The sad part of this is that it was my own mother that shamed me. Whether it be from eating a little more than I “should have” to why I would let my kids have a little more freedom than I had when I was a kid. My kids are 23 and 19 and she still goes at me from time to time about what my kids are doing and how I can just let them do it. Try hard to ignore her crap, but when it’s your mother telling you you are basically a bad mom, it’s hard to ignore. Gen, you are a great mom and have beautiful kids. Unfortunately, we live in a time that thinks it’s ok to insult everyone so that they feel better about themselves. You guys are great parents. It shows how much you love your kids. Keep it up.
Rachel Stephenson
This is beautiful!! As a mom of a 10 month old who is our first child I have had numerous people give “advice” on how to raise him. This is a reminder to raise my child they way that works best for us!
Christa
Wise words. Thank you for reminding us to put kindness out into the world and to hold each other up. Keep up the good work in life and here. Xo
Melanie
Gen, thank you for Sharing this!! You are so right! Your post helps me a lot, I’ve joined this motherhood journey just 2 weeks ago with my first baby. So thank you! And please keep posting, it really helps!
Melanie Arresse
Gen, thank you for Sharing this!! You are so right! Your post helps me a lot, I’ve joined this motherhood journey just 2 weeks ago with my first baby. So thank you! And please keep posting, it really helps!
Tresa
Thank you! This is an amazing post! Being a mom is hard and we must all encourage and support each other, so thank you for taking time to do just that!
Robin
I agree with you. So many women turn raising babies into a fierce Olympic competition. When my son was diagnosed with autism, he reached some of the milestones much later. I was ok with this. I wasn’t competing. I planned to be, but my 43 year old body wasn’t entirely good with that so we supplemented formula. That was ok too. Just enjoy this time because it flies by so quickly. Dontblet anyone ruin your journey
Anita A.
Hi Gen,
I can do relate to feeling inadequate, like I wasn’t the best mom. I tried to breastfeed my girls and wasn’t able to get the technique down with my first daughter. With my second, she ended up getting ‘breastmilk jaundice’. This had me overwhelmed with guilt. She had to go so much to the Doctor to have her little heel poked to get blood and it lthey looked like pincushions. She had to lay in the window to get the necessary sunlight. I feel we are our worst critic. The guilt I still feel today and they are going to be 25 and 23 in a couple of months.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts
Anita
Megan
Coming across this post could NOT have come at a better time. Just this past week I’ve been mom-shamed, accused of being disengaged in my child’s life because I work full time and am not able to volunteer at her school. I’ve felt endlessly hurt, angry and guilty. This post let me take the first deep, cleansing breath in days. It helped me regain a little bit of my pride in the choices I’ve made for myself and my family. Thank you!
Nicole Enix
Yes! Every single thing you mentioned I’ve been shamed for the same. From not being able to breastfeed after 6 weeks due to lack of milk, allowing my son to sleep with me after he had a febrile seizure, how he eats, I even get judged for painting his toe nails. He loves the colors ??♀️ I’ve always told my friends Motherhood can be the most judgmental “hood” to be a part of. Thank you for sharing this & reminding others that we all are in this Mom thing together, one day at a time ❤️
Deborah
I’m not even a mom and I love this! I’ve witnessed mom shaming too many times to count but it’s wider than that to be truthful. The shaming of women by women is so hurtful and unnecessary! If a woman hasn’t married what is wrong with her? If she did marry but didn’t have children what is wrong with her? Those questions can break her heart over and over again. Marriage and motherhood may have been her heart’s desire or not, why do people think that they’re entitled to share their opinions?
Let’s all try to be kind, we’ll all win if we do!
Lauren Olson
Thank you, what a great subject! We are all doing the best we truly can and mothering, and for us single Moms, fathering too, is sooooo hard. We need to be easier on ourselves. But, I have to mention our Mothers, I have an amazing Mom, so grateful to have her, every day. But, her censor flipped “off” when she became a Grandma! Seriously, sometimes very unwanted comments and advice. I hope I’m not the only daughter who feels this way. And, derailing me, when I say no, the kids know Grammy always says yes, it’s a never ending battle. It’s like I’m in a bad marriage with my Mom, lol ?
Cindy
You’re doing amazing, Gen. ?
Monaca
Thank you for this. I forget sometimes that I’m not the only one having a tough time and we do need to be more supportive and less judgy. I had an experiance at Target once where my son and I were having a rough go and the woman ajead of me at the checkout told me I was doing a great job. Just that one little comment made all the difference. Go moms!
Amber
Honest and open. Loved this! I’d say this is more than just moms, in general society is very judgemental. I think as women, the nurtures, we need to stop judging people bc they’re different. I’m not a mom and it’s disheartening when so many ask why, or try to tell me how much better, fuller my life would be with kids. It’s equally insulting amd hurtful. I am expected to justify why I do not.
Valentina Marquez
Thank you for sharing this!!!
Like every mom out there, I have questioned if I am doing what is right for my kids. From what they are eating (or not eating), to movies, and friends. But I realized that I was driving myself crazy trying to second guess every decision.
Yet, I have caught myself criticizing moms in my head for their babies crying in the store. But then I will look at my own babies and know that although they may be sitting quietly in the shopping basket at that moment, I have had my own frustrations and understand that we are only doing our best.
As I go to bed each night , I am wondering what mistakes I made that day and what I should have done differently. Then I see their smiles or hear their giggles in my head and I know that although they ate an extra cupcake after dinner, i have loved my babies unconditionally and made sure they know that. In my eyes, that makes me the best mom I can be! And each mom needs remember that every day.
❤️
Madison
This really touched home with me, not as a mother, but as a daughter who understands the struggles of motherhood. My own mother raised me by herself and juggled two jobs just to keep food on our table. She always did her best to teach me right from wrong, to support me, and to just raise me to be a decent human being. She often received criticism about her parenting (even in my presence) from strangers to even friends and family. It always broke my heart to hear it as I knew she was doing her best. No one is perfect and there is no such thing as a perfect parent. I really wish that there had been someone to say this to my mom while I was growing up, a few words of encouragement can go a long way.
Erika Vernaet
I have had people that I was a bad mother because I walked my girls to school every day until they were old enough to tell me when they were ready to walk alone. I bought them cell phones just to tell me when they arrived at school. I was and still am a stay at home mom from day one. I never got a babysitter unless it was my parents. But other mother’s judged me. I felt alone but not wrong.
J Newberry
This is a great topic, it is so true. I am a single mom with 11 kids. I have had my fair share of rude, obnoxious, and insensitive others telling me all about what I do wrong with my kids. Even church leaders telling me I was not a good mom for not marrying and giving my kids a dad. (Smh)
It is unbelievable to me. I am the one home caring for my kids while the other parent decided to abandon the situation. And I get to deal with that too?
We have to start building each other up, taking responsibility for how we make others feel and stop the judgement of others.
Angie Lively
I believe as mothers, if we provide our kids with love, respect for others, as well as themselves, manners and empathy for all living things, then we’ve done our jobs. No, one way, is the right way!! Do it the way that works for you and yours!!
Jessica Duckworth
Thank you so much for your honest opinion on the whole “mom shaming” thing. Its really just as bad as bullying and all of it needs to stop. We raise our children for ourselves, not for others. What works for one Mother/Father may not work for another, and thats ok! Thats why we do what we think is best for OUR child(ren).
Shawna Whaley
Love this! There’s too much judgement going on and not enough compassion and kindness
Erica Gonzalez
Thank you! Thank you for putting it into much better words than I ever could. The subtle digs we take at each other are overwhelming sometimes, as are the outright judgments. Being a mom is already tough enough. We definitely don’t need to be made to feel worse. I’ll be making the extra effort to reach out to other moms. Good reminder that we’re all in this together. Y’all have a beautiful family. Keep up the great writing! Thanks, again.
Michelle
As a special needs mama I love this on so many levels. I could write a novel on how judged I am every time I leave my house with my son.
Shaunna
I chose not to breastfeed my two children. Can you imagine the criticism? Whatever you imagined, triple it. I don’t know how many times I said “I respect your decision to breastfeed. I need you to respect my decision not to”. I think it’s all about respecting each other and supporting your fellow moms. We all struggle, we all do the best we can and that is enough. We are enough. Thanks for the great post, Gen.
Liz
Just wanted to say ninjago is an AWESOME movie and my kids are probably sick of ME putting it on all the time lol. 😉
Sandy Parks
I agree with you Gen. I have know idea if I’m being mom shamed. If I am I don’t hear but a lot of people are afraid of me because I look angry or mad not on purpose. I know people probably didn’t like it when I let my son grow his hair out he asked if he could I told has long has you take care of it. I’m a redhead (my kid’s also) so I heard my kids complain about being a redhead. I would tell them famous people that they knew that are redheads and also tell them that when people say that stuff to them about being a redhead (or any hair color) that they are just jealous because they don’t have that color. I tried to tell my kids(now 18 and 15) to do what they believe in. My dad was dad shamed because he raised my sister and I to speak our opinion and believe and do what we wanted in life. He didn’t care what anyone thinks I tell my kids the same thing. My son didn’t make a varsity sport because of his long hair. It’s also one of the reason he didn’t get his Eagle for Boyscouts. It’s an on going problem there’s not enough people like yourself to help fix it. I’m sorry I can keep going. Im writing from LeRoy, NY . Have a good night.
Thanks for writing this blog.
Sandy Parks
Elizabeth
Thank you for this insightful post. I’m not a mother, but much of what you say applies to everyone anyway. As someone who is childless by choice I get a lot of judgmental comments. But I know what’s right for me and my husband. Being kind to others is always the right choice. Thanks for your honesty and for being such a positive role model.
Sophal - Downtown Seattle Macaroni Kid
I have never believed in shaming anyone in the way they parenting, especially if the kiddos was healthy & happy. Never let ANYONE get you down for being a good mother. Parenting is hard and it is even harder if we don’t support each other.
P.S. Let me know if you ever need some good trails to hit up next time you are in Seattle.
Jennifer
Thank you for speaking this truth!
Criticism is usually not helpful, beneficial or coming from a place of helping. This should be shut down. Especially among mothers!
Though, I have a different take on unsolicited advice. I’ve found that we can learn so much that we wouldn’t have thought to ask if we’re open to other’s input. We don’t have to follow the advice but a “thank you for sharing that view/opinion/info” rarely harms us and sometimes we even get helpful tidbits we can use. And because parenting is tough we can use ALL the help we can get no?
Also, Some people show their care by offering “helpful” advice. It can come off pushy but if I can remember their “why”-that they care- it’s not taken as veiled criticism but as an “I love you”.
Erin
This is me- giving you and internet fist bump with much respect. Amen. Word. High five. All that jazz. ??
Yvonne
So true. Everything you wrote is so true. Standing up for yourself and all women like this so brave and wonderful … good for you, Gen! And thank you from one mother to another. <3
Juliet
Well Kudos to you Gen!???? For someone like me who was mom shamed for 25 yrs, I’m very happy to see someone standing up for the fact that “we’re all just doing the best we can”. I will give you all a little hint of why I had been “Mommy Shamed” for so many years…simply because I was a teenage mother. Ladies…that is definitely a stigma you don’t get rid of unless your children do what others think is “right” in life. I had all 4 of my children by the age of 23, and yeah I’ll bet anyone reading this truthfully has a though or two about me…something I’ve been use to my whole (almost 29 years of being a parent in July)??, but you know what…I simply never cared what anyone thought about me, my age, my parenting skills, or lack thereof (in others eyes). My goal and mission in this life was to create the best, caring, loving, respectful, devoted, passionate, strong and hardworking independent individuals this world is lucky to have in life. So I made sure I did all that along with finishing school, getting certified as a Medical Assistant and also as a Paralegal later in life, all while working raising my kids and running a household. It wasn’t easy, but boy are they all worth it! My point ladies is…don’t invest too much time in other people’s opinions of you…if you do…you’re just giving in to something that none of have control over, and that is someone else’s mind. I knew I could never change someone’s harsh or unreasonable thinking of me, but I knew I had the ability to raise what most people have referred to as “some incredibly amazing individuals” I was blessed to have had the opportunity to raise.??❤? Oh…as of today I am a almost 45 year old mother who gave birth to 5 children ( one a surrogate child), and a Oma (grandmother) of a 3 year old. ?❤?
Gen, I truly don’t hope you take this the wrong way, but I too would have been one of those women who would have made that statement about you and @dannielackles because truthfully… some of us envy you all for having the ability and time to take care of yourself so well because we couldn’t or haven’t figured out how to maintain our schedules to fit in time for healthier women. I don’t think it’s a backhanded insult to any of you…It’s that self mommy shaming we do to ourselves for not being as in shape or beautiful as you all are.
I know this was a long one, but at the age of almost 45 I know what the affects are of being Mommy Shamed, and I have nothing but time on my hands to make a statement on some of these blogs…because all the hard work I put in to raising great individuals in life to meet my bar, had unfortunately left me with some debilitating genetic diseases that have taken away a lot of what my husband and I would have thought we’re going to be our golden years to travel the world.
So ladies…take the time to take care of both…yourselves and your children and don’t ever let society or other people’s opinions define you…you define you. Just raise your kids to be the best versions of you this world would be proud to have.????❤?
Joy
This is my first time reading your blog although I follow you on Instagram. The funny thing is that I have said things to other moms that I meant as a sincere compliment that I now realize may have come off as being judgmental. Reading your blog reminded me to really pause for a moment before releasing word vomit (especially if you never intended it to be such)
I have a 6yr old son that at times can be a little on the ride side. I am quick to correct him. It is my obligation as a mother to ensure that he become the best version of himself. We were walking into a store and just before we entered he sassed me. I corrected him in a firm tone. (10 years prior military means my firm also included volume. Not to mention that is just who I am…Loud) Just then the doors opened and a muddled aged woman looked me up and down and with hesitation stated “oh wow” as though I was in the wrong for correcting.
For a moment I felt small. I was almost embarrassed and I instantly wanted to give an explanation and apologize for parenting him. I almost left the store, but instead I looked this woman in the eye and explained: Wow? Why? Because I used a firm voice that also happened to be loud enough to be heard but not yelling? I am raising a little person that I will eventually turn loose in the world…he needs my guidance. He needs discipline. I am not overly tough on my son. He is a free spirit. But, please don’t say wow as though I am wrong.
My son took my hand and as we walked away he looked at me and said “I’m sorry mommy”. I don’t know if he felt he had created an issue or if he realized he was too sassy with me. The point is that for a moment I felt like I needed to answer to a complete stranger.
Thank you for this post. Thank you for reminding all of that being a mom is hard enough without the weight of judgement from other moms. We should be a team. Givers of support.
❤️
Samantha
I agree so passionately with this post! By his own choice my son had long curly hair down to his shoulder blades until he was 5, when he decided one day that he wanted shaved hair. The amount of times he was referred to as a girl, or comments were made about how maybe long hair wasn’t a healthy choice for a young boy in case he got teased blew my mind – comments all made by adults, other parents, and never any of his friends or schoolmates, which says a lot. Or the snide comment from an aunt of mine (that had never actually met my son) that he watches too much TV because that’s what she sees in my social media posts; in actual fact, my son is very active and when he’s sitting down and watching TV I can finally get a picture of him that isn’t blurry! We’ve also experienced the painted nails stigma, which he was blissfully unaware of, thankfully. Family, friends, and even strangers should absolutely be there to support you in your journey into and throughout parenthood, it’s hard enough already. Your own worries and concerns don’t need to be magnified by judgemental input from the outside world. I say focus on your kid(s) and yourself, enjoy and encourage who they are and allow them to feel as much happiness as they give you.
Nancy
Thanks for sharing this! I feel sorry for moms out there that are shamed for raising their children their way. I believe that just like all people are different, each child is different. So I assume that the way you raise one, doesn’t necessarily mean you can apply that to the other. Unfortunately, I can’t have children, so I will never know what it’s like. And I’ve found that there’s is also shaming towards the women that do not have children. Where I work, many families visit and some parents will leave there kids unsupervised. If I see these kids do something they aren’t allowed to do or might be dangerous, I will tell them off. Most often then not, the moms will tell me off. They ask me if I have kids and when I say no, they tell me: no kids no opinion.
So I am wondering, am I in the wrong?
Emmie-luu
Aw this has touched my heart so much, you are an absolutely gorgeous mother with 3 absolutely gorgeous children. I think any woman would be proud to be half the mother you are ? chin up girly we all love you ?
Elena Alkhimova
I have two grown children. My daughter is twenty years old. She’s pregnant. Last Friday, she learned that her first child would be a son. Soon I will be a grandmother. I am very pleased, and I really want to save my daughter from judgment. Unfortunately, there are too many such “well-wishers” that I think are possible to judge others! Thank you, Genevieve, that you touched upon such an important topic for all mothers. From Ukraine whith love
Elena Alkhimova
Compliments are a very delicate matter. That for some people a compliment, for others can be a very serious insult and hurt their feelings. Let no one ever hurt your feelings. May the Lord bless your whole family.
Janick Lamontagne
I have been struggling with mental health issues all my life. A few years ago, I found THE shrink that helped me the most amongst the multitude of shrinks I have been in therapy with before. I had not wanted kids for over 20 years, mostly because my PTSD is due to a bad relationship with my father and having been bullied my entire life. Now, I do because I understood that it wasn’t my fault and I am a good person, I am enough. (we had a Good Will Hunting moment, my shrink and I) But, it might be too late because I’ll be 41 in less than a month and have been struggling to meet someone to be my partner and father to my children. When I look at your family, I only see love and it fills my heart with hope that the world is not doomed. I have been judgmental and I am working on that bit now. I take any kind of criticism very badly. I know it’s hard, if not impossible, to avoid some trolls (online and in real life), but what matters most is what you feel is important to you and your family. You are beautiful inside and out! Keep up the good work because you are inspiring to many of us younger and older women out there.
Sue
I love what you are saying and it is so true to many people today are quick to point fingers and not quick enough to lend a helping hand. No one is born a mother it’s something we learn as we go. It’s the love we give and create in home with our families that matter most. It’s like the old saying that my nana always said if you can’t say anything nice then don’t say anything at all.
Jessica Graziosi
Thank you Gen. My hope is the same as yours. NO MORE SHAMING!!! I am shamed in a pretty regular basis. I used to work full time and do it all. Mom of 4. Cook clean. Now, for the past 3 years I’ve had to stay home due to health issues. I’m shamed when I’m in too much pain to cook. Or if the laundry is t folded. Or when people come to our house and it’s not perfectly clean. My own brother shames me every time he sees me. It’s very upsetting. I think we do enough second guessing to ourselves. We do not need others doing that to us also. Xoxo Jess
Jeanne
Thank you! It is so important for every young mom to know it is not easy. Don’t be afraid, you are doing an amazing job. My kids are teens, but I know exactly what you mean. I never listened to people who “knew better”. I always listened to my hart. My children are my mirrors and I see love. Love from Switzerland!
Alex Vincent
My son is on the autistic spectrum and was diagnosed with Asperger’s at six. Prior to that we knew something was different, but had no answers. As such he often behaved differently to other children and this led to my then husband and I being judged as parents on a daily basis.
We were alienated by the other parents at school who also encouraged their children to alienate my son, they criticised the decisions I made and how I approached everything from showing affection and support to behaviour management. I felt lost and alone because of the judgement of others.
Once we understood why he behaved differently, I started to talk to their parents who had children with the same issues and all of them had experienced the same criticism, judgement and alienation from other patents, particularly mothers.
I have learnt so much through this experience and have taught my children as they have grown not to judge others. Thank you for shining a spotlight on this.
Elma
Absolutely love this. I am not a Mother yet but love reading and learning all this useful and amazing material to not only help me as a Mother in the future but also to understand Moms better. You are such an incredible person for choosing to help others on top of everything else you do! ♡
Jodi Gjersvik
Thank you for writing this post and I support you in this. I am almost 48 years old, and I have survived the many judgments laid upon me. It was painful. I would like to thank my therapist for helping me reach an emotional place in which the judgments don’t hurt me (as much). I was able to rise above it. Therapy. Therapy. Therapy. I take care of my mental health. It has allowed me to let go of people who are emotionally driven by deeply held insecurities and negative behaviors. That said, I’m a semi-private person. I don’t have to live in the public life, nor would I want to. You’re life is obviously much different when dealing with the judgments brought to you through celebrity status, and the judgments often are contrary to your beliefs concerning how to be the best mother for your children. I can’t imagine what it’s like having to protect and educate your children in that arena. Stay strong. Strength, character, ethics, personal morality, and kindness provides us with the knowledge and skills we need to raise our children to be loving and respectful human beings. Peace to you.
Kerrin Hutz
Thank you for writing this post. As a parent of adult children I find that I have been guilty of mom shaming. I’ve never actually said my thoughts out loud but in my mind I’ve shamed parents with young children. Thank you for pointing this out to me and I promise to be more kind in my mind.
I honestly believe that you are doing great with your children. Keep up the great work.
Gail
My ‘babies’ are now 23 & 20. I feel like I did so many things ‘’wrong’ while they were growing up (especially when we were around my mom). But you know what? I see 2 healthy, polite, smaller, funny and thriving adults now. And while I won’t take full credit for them, I take a lot of it, with my husband of course. I often tell him, “I don’t know what we did, but something worked. They are great.” When I see young parents who seem tired, frustrated, scared, etc … I always think and often say, “Just do what is in your heart. Be present, be strong, be consistent and just Be.” Love you, Gen.
Jen F.
Than you for this! It was so needed. As
Moms, we should be strong woen wodking together to support each other, not tearing down each ofhers choices. Kids are HARD, and they don’t coe with instruction manuals!
Laurie
Thank you, thank you, thank you !! As a Mom of a 24, 16, and 10 year old, I can say they’re ALL different in personalty and temperament. I have been both judged and praised by other Mom’s. I love that you said ” you’re ENOUGH” God gave us these amazing humans to care for and we do our very best !! Keep up the great advice and know that you TOO are ENOUGH ?❤️?
((Hugs from Michigan)) – Laurie V.
Laurie VanEss
Thank you, thank you, thank you !! As a Mom of a 24, 16, and 10 year old, I can say they’re ALL different in personalty and temperament. I have been both judged and praised by other Mom’s. I love that you said ” you’re ENOUGH” God gave us these amazing humans to care for and we do our very best !! Keep up the great advice and know that you TOO are ENOUGH ?❤️?
((Hugs from Michigan)) – Laurie V.
Jordy
The mom-shaming has gotten to a ridiculous point nowadays. With Instagram, the second anyone posts a photo of something to do with their kid, there’s always a person or two who points out something. A snapshot in the moment apparently gives the illusion that it’s fact, and people are harsh. I think so long as a child is well-fed, nurtured, and mentally and physically supported, then keep opinions to yourself. The nail polish thing was bizarre to me, because it’s not a harmful thing in any way. Critics have no right and we all need to be more supportive and uplifting.
Tawny Rogacki
I’m not a mom but I’m an aunt to 10 year old niece & a 6 year old nephew & I’ve kinda had to help raise them. I also help to take care of my sister so I feel like a mom sometimes without being one yet. I get the nail polish thing because my nephew wanted to paint his nails like me & his sister & his mom does but he was afraid of what people would say at school the next week. I’m like, “You’re only a little kid having fun. It comes off!” So yes, thank you for sharing this. I don’t relate as personally but on some level I do. Kindness does help & I really hope others realize that more.
Suzette
Thank you for sharing. As a parent of a child with mental health struggles I get the “well, if you would just…” statements almost daily. I can’t even imagine the judgement you must get raising your children in the public eye. While most of us only have to put up with our own circle of friends and a handful of strangers chiming in at the grocery store, you have to navigate thousands of prying eyes and “suggestions” from strangers daily. I applaud your resilience and willingness to be open about your life with all of us despite the criticism. Kudos to you and Jared and your beautiful children and thank you for helping to normalize and encourage acceptance. No one is perfect, we will all make mistakes. But as you saidn we are in this together!
Ana O'
I think being a public figure is even harder because your post are public and people can be very mean. I love that you do advertising and blogging, etc. Being able to work from home is a blessing. Spending time with your kids is great. I have 4 kids, and had the blessing of my husband (military) let me be at home mom (though I have gotten mom shame for it too.)
My mom thought me, to each its own. Be careful how you judge and what you wish because is Karma for you and for your kids. Very wise words I think, to this day I’m teaching the same to my 2 boys and 2 girls. I’ve been mommy shame for nursing all my kids until they were about 3yrs old, carrying them around too much or for too long, potty training, co sleeping, private school and now Independent school.etc. Some thing bad happened to me. Since then I decided, no explanations given and that is what we chose and that is what we do is the answer I give. The only one I explain things is to my husband, because he pays bills and puts food In our table. I see my 15 and 11yrs old who are taller than me, caring and indipendant, kids, and I don’t regret the things I was being mom shame for)
Personally I observed what other moms do, focus on what I like and I think I can use for my kids, depending their personalities and run with it. What is not my cup of tea, I don’t shame them for it, because I been there and it hurts, plus is bad Karma.
Thank you Gen for your heart felt words, may God keep blessing you and your family.
Ana O'
Thank you Genevieve for your heart felt post.
My mom told me to be careful how I judge and what and how I say things, because it is Karma for me and my kids. (my kids were not even born) personally I take what I like from my friends or other moms and run with it. What is not my cup of tea I don’t shame them for, been on the other side and it hurts. Plus my mom’s words resonate.
Maddy
I love this! Being a mom is though and we most certainly don’t need the mommy shaming .
Jennifer Lovenstein
I love what you wrote here and I agree wholeheartedly. The best parenting advice I ever received was to ignore all parenting advice, pay attention to and really learn about my child, and do what feels right for our family at the time. When in doubt, call the pediatrician. And whenever my now teenage and tween children judge my parenting (usually because I’m making them do a chore they don’t want to do), I lovingly tell them to note it in their journals so that they can tell their future therapists how awful I was. (Lol)
Gwen
Thank you for this. Motherhood is wonderful but also so so hard and made even harder by the judgement of others, judgement that is everywhere these days. Moreso than ever. I got judged for being a stay at home mam. I got judged for wanting to breastfeed my girls and then judged again when I had to give it up both times as the pain was excruciating. There is no judgement greater than that of breastfeeding mothers towards those who, for whatever reason, cannot or do not want to breastfeed. Then there’s the judgement when your Asperger teenager is having a meltdown in public and people immediately think bad parent/awful child without stopping to think there might be a hidden disability issue. Mothers need to be kinder to each other, not so condemning. A smile or a helping hand could be what it takes to turn a bad day around for a woman having a tough day.
Montana Moore
Wow, Gen. Knocking it out of the park, with an issue I hadn’t realize was getting so bad. You’ve really shown light on the subject and as usually I’m proud of you for being braver the rest of us and talking about what needs to be talked about ❤❤
Melinda
” At the end of the day it is NOBODY’s business how or what I feed my children. I am a mom just trying to get by. We all are.”
Absolutely! Couldn’t have said it better myself. We are the only ones who know what works for our children and why. Even “What to Expect When You’re Expecting” does not universally apply to all Moms. There are no “Mom Bibles.” If only it were that easy. We have to tune out the critical know-it-alls and do what’s best for OUR children no matter how many children or what degrees certain moms have.
Robbie
You are such an inspiration not only to me but also to my two grown daughters.. and all three of us have experienced mom shaming and I think it’s so sad. I have the opinion that if my child is happy, healthy, and knows that I adore them ,then I am obviously doing something right and if they want me to kiss them, paint their nails, dress them up as Boy George then by God that’s what I’m going to do. You are a beautiful wonderful mother and it is obvious and I have a good feeling that the man in your life would not be with you if he thought otherwise. Please do not stop what you are doing keep inspiring me and my two girls keep inspiring all women to be strong independent and know that they are worthy of everything that they strive to have. I cannot tell you how much your blog has meant to me.. there have been moments in my life especially after my mother died that I truly thought that I wasn’t strong enough and your words of wisdom and encouragement helped me stand up and realize that even though she’s gone I am still here and still worthy and still entitled to be happy. Thank you for everything I cannot thank you enough because truly not only has Supernatural been a strong force in my life but your words to have been just as strong. I cannot tell you how happy I am that I found you and your words I know that I sound like a babbling fan here but you just really have no idea what you have done for me and my two girls thank you again we love you we support you in everything that you’re doing.
Betty
I’m not a mother but I love your post alot. Your kids are so happy. I think it’s awesome you take care of them instead of nannies or etc. My mom was at home mom I saw her struggle all the time. It’s hard. Your doing great.
Holly
I’m not a mom, but you inspire me as do all mom’s do. People need to realize there is no perfect way to raise children as each child and their needs are different. Some parenting styles work for one, while it doesn’t work for another. But, we have become such a judgmental society that no matter what you do – you’re in the wrong. Keep up the good, Mama. You got this.
Celine
Thanks Gen for sharing this. Many have tried to make me feel like an inadequate mom, and I say try because unless they are a certified pediatrician I never gave a rats ass about their opinion and did what I believed in my heart was the best for my daughter. None of us as the perfect solution and my solution may not be good for you or yours for me and it’s ok. This is why we are called individuals… Because we are each unique in our own way and our kids also… When I have birth the nurses made me feel so bad for not being able to breastfeed instead of helping me find a solution. I had to figure out for myself how to give the best to my baby. For 6 months I’ve used a pump and gave her my milk with a mix of formula. And she’s now a healthy 7 years old and I’m proud of what we accomplish everyday. Thanks again for being our voice xxx.
Iris Martha from Curacao
Gen, from what i see you are raising your kids well. To me what counts is love, cause love is the best way to do things. There is nor was never a guidebook of being a mom or wife. You chose these by loving the person enough and kids by always wanting to protected them. You chose by letting love guide you true desicions. And for me it has been always that, love will show you that what you do is enough that you are enough.
Gen you have a beautyful family and they all are happy (Jared included) so keep going you are doing just great. With love Iris M.
Valerie Sampson
I nursed my daughter; had an awful time of it because I just couldn’t produce enough for her. We stuck it out for about six months, and it was mentally, physically, and emotionally exhausting. When my son was born, I tried again, but because of complications during his birth I ended up having two epidurals, which caused the worst spinal headache I have ever had-I couldn’t sit up without my head feeling like it was being split in two. After about a week of trying to nurse him, and either bawling because my head hurt so bad, or bawling because I tried lying down to nurse and he couldn’t latch on well, my mom said, “You know, both you and your sister were bottle babies and you both turned out fine.” I couldn’t believe the flak I got from several *friends*, that somehow I had failed my child because of how I chose to make sure he got fed! A week later he was diagnosed with pyloric stenosis and had surgery at two weeks of age. The same friends questioned our doctors and us for his surgery. You just can’t win with some people.
Rachelle
Hi Jen! This was very moving. My boys are much older now. 20 and 14, but I’ve been there and honestly done that too. It’s amazing when we can walk in truth about how we judge one another. Your blog is inspiring and brings awareness to how we should treat one another with humility. I’ve been judged as you have and honestly it’s hurtful. I’ve learned to not allow other people’s opinions dictate who I am as a woman or mother. Thank you for writing this blog. You’re an amazing woman and mother Jen. I hope others can be inspired by your words to keep pressing each day and walk in truth. God bless you!
jean sorrell
You know, from every photo that i have seen, you have three loving, affectionate little ones who are not afraid or embarrassed to show that they love their parents, and one another. You teach your kids to eat clean, to enjoy the company of their family at holidays, to meditate, to exercise, my heavens, how much more can you teach them about being responsible, aware peole. You even teach you boys to stand up for women, and respect us as valuable people! I was in a grocery not long age, and a family passd by, he last being a little girl of about four, who, smiling, said “excuse me”. Without thinking, i said ” Good job Mom” She was shocked, and thanked me for recognising that she works hard to teach her kids to be kind people. If only we could all take a moment, just one moment, to recognize a mom…….Thanks.
Gabriela
Congrats Gen, it’s my first time here and I‘m really impress with your way of Writing. For sure, starting today,I am going to give suport words for desperate moms. And keep working in this blog, it’s really good!
Melanie
You are so right! The mom shaming has to stop. As long as it’s not emotionally or physically abusive, how moms AND dads raise their children, is no one’s business but their own. So you painted your son’s fingernails. Big whoop! I don’t think that will “emasculate” him in the least. You and your children look healthy and happy, so you must be doing something right. I know it’s hard, I’ve been there, but ignore the people that only have something negative to say. Misery lives company, right?
Charlotte Paul
I am an extremely non-judgemental person and always wish that others would be so, too. Unfortunately I had more than my share considering my parenting skills! I may be wrong sometimes (hey, I’m human! And everyone is a firsttimer parent as each kid is different or the circumstances are) but I definitely am a very dedicated mother and such comments ae hurtful and only fuelled my insecurities! So thanks thanks thanks for pouting this out and inspiring us to be a better person!
B Meiser
I love this post! Thank you so much for spreading the word of positivity and support. It took me a long time to trust my instincts insead of listening to what others told me was right for my son. Once I realized I was capable and that my insticts were spot on, I was able to parent without guilt or shame. Life is hard enough without criticizing one another, so why do it?
Veronica McGee
Very good read. I became a first-time mom in April when my husband and I were blessed with a newborn baby to adopt. I’m the type of person that immediately calls someone out if I feel they’re judgy or being passive aggressive. What I wasn’t prepared for is those that feel entitled to talk to me, interrupt me, and provide unsolicited advice that I don’t want. Having a baby with me does not give friends or strangers they right to provide me with unwanted attention. I realize it’s joyous to have a baby but this journey was long, emotional, and the hardest thing I’ve ever done. Frankly, sometimes I just don’t want to talk or engage and I certainly don’t want to hear judgement.
Devon Ayres
Thank you so much for sharing! My husband and I have been struggling with expanding our family and have decided on adoption. You would not believe the comments and we don’t even have a child yet! Someone actually tried to shame me because I wasn’t planning on breast feeding an adopted baby! Thank you for advocating for all moms!
Liz Brown
I so agree with your words in this article and think you hit the nail on the head. We are all to quick to judge others when we don’t see the whole picture, let’s say. When you are doing your best and raising, healthy, happy, kind, caring children it is awesome. Mothers and others should be ashamed of shaming others. If they are not your children, you do not have the right to tell their parents how to raise them. Things have changed so much since I was a mother with a daughter and I think it is harder for the parents and the kids today. As my grandmother use to tell me, if you can’t say something nice or help someone, don’t say or do anything. Everyone needs encouragement and a feeling of selfworth. We should all encourage each other, be kind to each other, and help each other that we may be better ourselves.
Don Gillespie
Hi Gen,
Looks like not too many men are commenting here so I’m happy to provide a guy’s point of view. We were shocked at how many parents couldn’t wait to let us know, some in subtle ways and some not so subtle, that our baby wasn’t as smart, fast, strong, dleeping as well, or just all-around as incredible, as theirs, that we were lacking in this, wrong in that, that we should do what they did even if it sounded stupid…it took us by surprise until we realized that there are a lot of people out there who just want to elevate their own self image at the expense of yours. I found women to be especially brutal about breastfeeding and cesarian sections. I’m happy for all the women who wanted natural childbirth nd had it, and who wanted to breastfeed and had an easy time. But having a c-section or epidurals doesn’t make you any less a woman and doesn’t make you somehow defective (yes some people actually say this stuff). many women do not just roll out of bed knowing how to get the proper latch for breastfeeding or know what to do when their milk arrival is delayed a bit, and these struggles don’t make you any less a woman either. We all make our judgements about the parenting of others (God knows I sure do) but I keep those judgements to myself, which is where they belong. We like our parenting style but that doesn’t mean it’s the way everyone should do it. So when we meet people expecting their first baby we give the one single piece of advice (if they want it): Listen only to your baby and trust your instincts. 9 times out of 10 they will lead you the right way if you trust them. For the times you still have a problem, seek out advice from someone who’s been through it who you really trust. And you’ll be fine. Nice blog.
Don
Natasha Chambers-McGilton
Hell yeah! Perfect words everyone who has ever been mom shamed or been the guilty one shaming a mom trying her best! I read a quote somewhere that went something like ” show me a perfect mother and I’ll show you a unicorn dancing around a leprechaun at the end of a rainbow with a pot of gold and a fairy on his shoulder sprinkling glitter everywhere”. Way to go Mama!
RaeAnn LaBounty
As a mother, reading this has truly given me light at a dark time. I am so grateful that so many mothers get to talk with each other about these things and support each other. It really is tough. But, with love and support, we got This! Thank you, Gen. For bringing this to attention!
Gianna Christopher
My mom get’s mom shamed about how strict she is with me but it called love she’s not that strict and she lets me watch ninjago so many times on reapet it’s an amzing movie . Thaks for inspiring me and my mom 💛