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Sex and Intimacy: A Conversation with Cindy Gallop

My desire to explore intimacy further sprung from an honest conversation with my girlfriends and what intimacy looks like for all of us—those with multiple kids, those with one kid, those with no kids—and how it’s changed over the years. I realized as we were talking that it’s a topic that I feel completely normal and natural discussing in my own home, but for whatever reason, in the public sphere, I get embarrassed and clam up.

Which is exactly why I wanted to talk to Cindy Gallop: If you’ve never heard of her, she’s a badass former advertising and branding executive who now runs a startup called Make Love, Not Porn. If you’ve ever watched one of her TED Talks, you know that she 100 percent owns who she is and how she feels about sex and relationships. It’s freeing, intriguing and refreshing to listen to her talk openly about what she wants out of a partner. And she fully contends that the definition of any relationship should be a dialogue between two people, which I completely agree with.

Speaking of dialogues, in my house, we have a very honest relationship with our bodies; I want my kids to grow up with a healthy relationship to their bodies, to never be ashamed or embarrassed. So we try to have frank conversations with them without dumbing things down.

That’s what I like about Cindy, too: She’s completely genuine, totally raw, and wholeheartedly stimulating. And with this month’s focus on body image, I thought it was important to highlight how intertwined our bodies and intimacy are. I hope you enjoy our conversation.

Make sure to watch straight through to the end, as Cindy tackles how to have “The Sex Talk” with your kids! If you are interested in keeping the dialogue open about sex and intimacy too, drop a comment below or share this video with a friend.

 
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10 Comments

  • Hailey Owens

    Thank you so much for discussing this subject with us. I have learned a lot and have become more aware of my own body and desires. I really enjoyed viewing this discussion. I love you so much, Gen. ❤️

    P. S. I love that teal dress!! Where did you get it?

  • Melissa

    Awesome job! Thanks for sharing! Now to go talk with my hubby 😊

  • Tracey

    Hi Gen,

    Thank you so much for being brave to open up this conversation in public! I’m like you (and probably many other women) in which I can totally talk about it with my friends, in one of our homes, but I get too shy to discuss it in public places. And we shouldn’t be embarrassed to talk about sex and intimacy—it’s such a natural, beautiful part of life! Every time you are brave and post something that might be hard or painful to talk about, the first thing that comes to my mind is “thank you Gen, you are such an inspiration “!!! You are many other things, but inspiring is high on the list!

    Many thanks, Tracey xox

  • Gifs Dee & Gen

    I loved 😍😍😍

  • Jam

    That was great! Thank you Gen for bringing sex to discussion 😘

  • Shaista

    This is awe-inspiring and amazing! Kudos to you, Genevieve! I feel that the rate of crimes related to sex will actually go down if people, especially kids these days, are taught at the right age and by the right people (parents, guardians) because then they’ll know what a “good touch” or a “bad touch” is. And consent, sexual values are are important as our basic needs, as rightly said by Ms Cindy! Amazing! You’re both doing a great service to parents, to the society and to humanity! Keep up the good work, ladies!!! Beat the stigma, and show them what women are really capable of! #TheFutureIsFemale
    Thank you very much, again.
    Yours respectfully,
    An Indian Muslim Teenage Writer.

  • Ginger

    Thought provoking,intelligent and honest.
    Truly enjoyed this.

  • Johna

    Gen, thank you for sharing this video with us. It brought to mind what started me being open with my children about not just sex but the human body. It all started when I got my first period. I woke up that morning thinking I was bleeding to death because my mom nor my 3 older sisters never talked about it. I remember also being embarrassed about it every month especially when having to get hygiene products. My oldest son who be 17 in less than a week (GAH) down to my youngest daughter who’ll be 10 in just a few weeks (again GAH) all know about sex. One things that’s got me confuzzled is how to explain an orgasm as my 12 yr old is the first one to bring it up and he brought it up in front of his 2 younger siblings. Any suggestions? I was honest with him and told him I would have to thonk about an age appropriate response and asked him to give me a few days. Thanks again.

  • Elena

    Love this subject. Sex has become this shameful thing in society when it’s the most natural thing. I hope that I can raise my children to value love, sex and their partners. I think by doing this we can change how sex is viewed.

  • Holly

    Gen thank you so much for introducing me to Cindy Gallop! Thank you for the honest conversation! I loved when Cindy talked about how we are taught values and ethics in other areas of relationships, but never in sexual realtionships. I think that is so important. As someone impacted by sexual abuse these lessons and conversations are even harder, but doubly valued! I also really appreciated her comments about how to talk about porn to kids…and to keep those lines of communication open. Such a great dialogue…thank you for being brave enough to share it with us!!

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