As women, we’re programmed to be caretakers, so much so that many of us put others’ needs way above our own, running ourselves ragged to make everyone around us happy. But when we’re stretched so thin, how are we supposed to take care of ourselves?
Licensed psychotherapist and love and relationship expert Terri Cole calls this phenomenon the “disease to please.” Her passion is helping women set boundaries and live more authentically so that they can find and receive love.
The “disease to please” is something I can definitely relate to: I was always the straight-A student, the overachiever, the firstborn who went off to college at NYU…At a certain point, after years of overextending myself, I had to figure out how to set boundaries in a healthy way so that I could feel more whole—and not like I was prioritizing everyone else’s needs above my own. Putting yourself first isn’t an easy thing, but it also helps friends, family and, yes, romantic partners to know the real you and what you stand for.
I recently sat down with Terri to chat about opening yourself up to living a more fulfilled life, and how to practice self-care, self-acceptance, compassion and self love. I hope you’ll be inspired to celebrate yourself after watching the video.